WE NEED HELP TO OVERCOME OUR FEARS






One reason why we need to team up to achieve our goals is, that, as much as we pool our individual strengths together, we also complement our individual weaknesses with each others’ strengths. If I am extremely creative, someone in our team is extremely organized, cautions or communicative… If I am bad in handling money, someone in our team may be brilliant at that. As a team, we can certainly achieve a thousand-fold more than what we can achieve as individuals…

“Why can’t we ourselves overcome all our weaknesses and then go for the kill all alone?

Well, that’s not practical. Moreover, we can go only so much on our own. To go far, to do it big, we need to do it together as a team… creating a ‘Master-mind alliance’ as Napoleon Hill puts it.

As individuals, most of us suffer from the fear of failure: What if I fail? What if I don’t succeed? What if I lose whatever I possess now? What will others think? So, for individuals, this remains a huge block… unless the individual doesn’t cross this barrier – the security of the comfort zone which has paralizes him… yes, unless this fear dissolves and the plunge is taken, success will remain elusive…

“Success,” they say “always lies on the other side of fear.” No two opinions about it!

So, when we team up, invariably, this problem is taken care of. If I am scared to leave my safety net, others may help with their strength… If others are scared of talking to people or motivate them, I can step in with my strength… Somebody can handle money, and somebody can handle tax or government regulations and so on…

Even if our ventures are sole-proprietor kind, we always find people around us to help us achieve our personal goals… They are our well-wishers, whose trust we have won through our good deeds in the past… Yes, these well-wishers, these cheerleaders of ours will always be there for us… They don’t expect monetary return from us… They just expect reciprocation of their affection… and, importantly, they genuinely want to see us successful…

Therefore, we need help to overcome our fears. And, to find help… we just need to seek it, very, very sincerely.


GERLAD D’CUNHA

Pic.: Chetna Shetty

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