Gerald D'Cunha

M any of you must have already read a touching Post on social media about Ritesh Batra’s (Remember his movie ‘Lunch Box’?) English movie, ‘Our Souls at Night’. In fact, I first heard about this movie, some weeks ago, when this Post began to do rounds on social media. Since then, several people have sent me this Post… It’s a lovely Post capturing the beautiful old-age romance of Addie (Jane Fonda), a widow, and Louis Waters (Robert Redford), a widower. The story is about how these two, who are in their seventies, and who live alone in their respective houses opposite each other’s, decide to spend their time – particularly nights – together. Addie, one fine day, rings Louis’s doorbell and makes the first move: “Would you mind coming over to my place to sleep with me… Just to do away the loneliness?” Even in a so-called ‘open society’ like America, such an idea sounds outrageous and scandalous. But, Addie is honest and confident… She isn’t worried about w...

“If your heart is a volcano, how shall you expect flowers to bloom?” - Kahlil Gibran T oday is my twenty-sixth wedding anniversary. Sorry: ‘our’ wedding anniversary… my wife’s and mine!  “It is always about ‘me’,” my wife, often, points to my blunders, “It is not about ‘us’!” But, I know it is never about ‘me’, always… Still, there is a point my dear wife tries to make: “Don’t ignore me… Care for me… Love me… We are together in this -  this ship called ‘marriage’.” A ship to sail for twenty-six years in this sea and survive is not a small achievement. If I post today our picture (me and my wife together) on FB, I am certain to get some of these comments: “Perfect couple”… “Lovely couple”… “Amazing couple”… “Wonderful Couple”… “Super-duper couple”… and, some blessings, too: “God Bless You”… “Stay Blessed” etc.… Well, we need everyone’s blessings, sure. But, when I read a  comment like, “Perfect Couple” or “Ama...

Pic.: Anima D'Cunha I think, if ‘Stay Invested’ is a golden advice for success in equity market, ‘Stay Married’ is the golden advice for success in married life... On your wedding day, you might complete pronouncing the Seven Vows in seven minutes... but, to translate your vows, you need a life-time. That’s why, it is said, “Wedding is a day; Marriage is a life-time!” Love that holds together a life-time marriage is not all pink hearts and sweet nothings. Love, there, expects your heart to constantly long, open, embrace, break, ache, amend, apologize, forgive, promise, trust, again fail, again try and again, again and again try... Yes, you might spend crores on your wedding ‘show’, fly to the most exotic places in the world for your honeymoon... you might give each other the whole world as gifts... you might display an enviable show of affection in public... but, then, yes, but then... Love is so simple and uncomplicated... that, to love your partner, you just nee...