Gerald D'Cunha

“Always think in terms of solutions. Focusing on the problems usually gives us more of them.”  ―  Sam Owen I f Life has problems, Life also has solutions. Putting it in another way, if there cannot be a Life without problems, there also cannot be a Life without solutions. I think, we have two kinds of people around us: those who live as part of this world’s problems and those who live as part of the solutions! Let’s take any problem in our personal life or in the world outside… and, let’s honestly examine our mindsets: on which side are we standing… as part of the problem or as part of the solution? I believe, that helping little kids foster a mindset of solution is the greatest service we can ever do to mankind. Whether we are reactive adults – always blaming, cribbing, complaining, conspiring and avenging… or proactive adults – always willing to take responsibility by offering and seeking help, with trus...

“Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action.” ~Walter Anderson T here is a dear friend of mine who has a very clear mind. No matter how confusing and worrisome situations in hand may seem to be, this friend of mine has that uncanny ability to remain poised and see through the situation without getting rattled. Very often, I share my anxieties with this friend of mine… and, invariably, emerge stronger, calmer and a lot optimistic. In life, we need to surround ourselves with a couple of friends like this one... Life can be a lot easier to cruise through… Besides talking out my problems with some clear-headed friends like the one I mentioned above, and besides a strong anchorage in prayer, I have found two more helpful tools to beat my anxiety and worry… One is doing physical exercises, and, the other is doing (willingly and gladly) some household chores. My Tai Chi exercises, early-morning walk and rounds of breathing exercises (Pranayama...

“Empathy is like giving someone a psychological hug.” - Lawrence J M y friend, Mukesh, has been a popular Physics teacher. He loved the Physics subject both in school and college… and, when it came to choosing a career, he rightly chose to be a Physics teacher… Since that decision, Mukesh has taught Physics to thousands of students, mostly college students… and fired their imagination! Two days ago, Mukesh had come to me to discuss a problem he was grappling with. He was with me for nearly thirty minutes and, all that I did was just listen to him with empathy, sincerely… knowing fully that I had no answers to his problems… Yet, he had chosen me to be his sounding board… come to me and talk. In fact, Mukesh has been doing it quite often… Whenever his mind needed some clarity, he would come to people like me and talk… while we would simply listen, without judging him and without jumping to our conclusions, leave alone solutions. ...