IF YOU WANT SOLUTIONS...

























“Always think in terms of solutions.
Focusing on the problems usually gives us more of them.” 

― Sam Owen

If Life has problems, Life also has solutions. Putting it in another way, if there cannot be a Life without problems, there also cannot be a Life without solutions.

I think, we have two kinds of people around us: those who live as part of this world’s problems and those who live as part of the solutions!

Let’s take any problem in our personal life or in the world outside… and, let’s honestly examine our mindsets: on which side are we standing… as part of the problem or as part of the solution?

I believe, that helping little kids foster a mindset of solution is the greatest service we can ever do to mankind. Whether we are reactive adults – always blaming, cribbing, complaining, conspiring and avenging… or proactive adults – always willing to take responsibility by offering and seeking help, with trust, good communication, cooperation, forbearance and forgiveness… yes, the seeds of our adulthood are always sown in our childhood…

Kids, who never learn to share their toys, will never learn to share and accommodate, forgive and forget, never learn to see the goodness in others when they grow up… Yes, how can you expect these kids to be part of the solutions when they become adults?

The chronic fault-finders around us don’t just pop up from nowhere… They have been always there, never learning to drop their fault-finding mindset. Organizations and congregations, families, schools and governments – yes, you find the fault-finding cribbers everywhere. Problems mount because of this breed… It’s a sad state!

On the other hand, the problem-solvers, too, don’t just pop up from nowhere… They, too, have been always there, learning early in life to cultivate a problem-solving mindset. Blessed are the organizations and congregations, families, schools and governments which are inhabited by this breed… Yes, it’s a blessed state!

So, the question I need to ask myself: Am I here as part of the problem, or as part of the solution?

If we sincerely want solutions to our problems, we need to focus more and more and more on the solutions…

I don’t think, there is a better way to reach there!


GERALD D’CUNHA

Pic.: Uttam Ghosh


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