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WHO KEEPS A VIGIL OVER THE SUN, THE WIND AND THE LAKES?

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Pic.: Pushpa Mistry Kamath
I say this too often. And, yesterday, I heard it from a friend of mine, too: “We need to have trust when we step out into the world.”
Yes, this friend of mine, too, was asking, “What kind of life it would be, if we have no trust in each other?”
He pointed to me at the cars and the bikes parked inside our society complex and said, “Ours is a private society. We have this boundary wall and massive gates protecting us. There are these security guards keeping a vigil all through the day and the night… So, we think we are safe, our properties are safe. But, let’s just move out of our society complex and see how it is… There are these ultra-modern buildings with no place to park even their high-end cars… They leave them on the open road and go off to sleep. Lakhs and lakhs of taxis and auto rickshaws are left on the roadside by their owners when they go home at night… The lamps on the streets are not guarded… There are lakes giving us all the drinking water… They are…

HERE IS A NEW DAY... WITH A NEW CHALLENGE

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Pic.: Pushpa Mistry Kamath

“You can only lose what you cling to.” — Buddha

Last week, I had invited a very dear friend of mine to spend an hour with our young PD-students. She did a wonderful job… helping young-ones to correct the most common mistakes they committed while communicating in English.
My friend is a very gentle and helpful soul. Now retired, she had been a very popular English teacher… and, like all teachers do, had impacted lives of thousands of students through her teaching career.
This morning, I saw a message from my friend… She wanted my e-mail id. Our students had loved her session and found it very useful.  Even though I had conveyed it to her and thanked her profusely, while sending to her my e-mail id, today, I, once again, conveyed to her my students’ and my own sincere feelings…
“Gerry, in fact, I needed the e-mail id for that reason,” my friend wrote to me,  “I realized that a lot of threads were hanging loose and hoped that if I explained it all in detail to you in…

FROM BEING 'SELF-CONSCIOUS' TO BEING 'CONSCIOUS'

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Pic.:Shankar Ramachandran

A 14-year-old girl was on stage. “What makes me happy?” was the spontaneous topic we had chosen for the day. I had watched this girl on stage, during our sessions in the past years… She was a teenager now, and, I saw the self-consciousness telling it on her body… Her hands shivered, legs moved awkwardly, eyes blurred and voice cracked…  
“Don’t worry beta about what is happening to you,” I encouraged the young-one, “just feel your fear fully… It will die.”
I could see an immediate denial, “Sir I am not frightened.” She did not tell me that; but, from my own expereicne, I could read her heart…
Beta, when you used to go on stage a few years ago, you would do it so naturally, so fearlessly… and, now, when you are a teenager, you tend to become a lot ‘self-conscious’… That’s a natural growing-up process. Don’t worry.”
The girl seemed more relaxed now… “Thank God, I am normal!”
“I did not say, you become ‘conscious’… I said, you become ‘self-conscious’,” I told the cl…

SHOULD WE TRUST PEOPLE... EASILY?

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Pic.: Uttam Ghosh


“None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, still,  we go forward. Because we trust… Because we have Faith.”
Paulo Coelho
Whenever I ask our participants to write down some of their main strengths and weaknesses, I come across this one: “I trust people easily” or “I trust people too much.”
Should we trust people – easily?
I think, if we operate from our innate faith and strength, trusting others – even if it means easily and early – comes to us naturally, and, that’s how it should be. On the other hand, when we operate from our fear – insecurity, lack and skepticism – it doesn’t come to us naturally… It cannot.
Let’s imagine this scenario: I meet someone and approach him with lack of trust. And, he, too, approaches me in the same manner. Where is this interaction, this relationship going to take us?
One of the two parties has to operate with a strong, confident heart… a heart filled with trust… a heart which is driven by faith. When it goes that way, the oth…

THE CUSTOMER CARE

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“If we don't take care of our customers,
someone else will."
-Unknown
Ihave come to Ahmadabad to conduct a two-day training-programme for the fresh employees of a leading bank. The gentleman in-charge of this programme, here, is Mr. Joshi. I hadn't met or talked to him before… We were total strangers. But, right since last afternoon, he had been constantly in touch with me… enquiring about my flight, transportation to my accommodation and the training facility etc. In the process, he freed me of the stress and made me feel at home.
I was up at 5 this morning. At 5.30, I received a warm good-morning message from Mr. Joshi. My flight was at 2.25 in the afternoon. But, he made me feel that I was not just ‘one- more-trainer’ in his long list of trainers… He made me feel -  that, I was special, I was important… that, he and the bank he represented really cared for me… Yes, my day started off on this inspiring note, today…
Just before the flight was to take off, Mr. Joshi sent me a …

THE LESS-CROWDED GROUP

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Pic.: Suresh Nair
“There are two kinds of people: those who do the work, and, those who take the credit. Try to be in the first group… There is less competition there.” Indira Gandhi
Yesterday, someone was telling me how fierce the competition was in his field. This man worked extremely hard, and he worked with all his heart. Things had moved well for him all along. But, he seemed to be a lot anxious. “I sense I am losing the hold… There is fierce competition around me. There are plenty in the field out there doing what I have been doing… There is ample option for the customers, now… Moreover, I am not ‘that young’ anymore.” “What did you say, last?” I probed the man. “I said, I am not ‘that young’ anymore,” he repeated. “Do you, also, sense that you are not ‘as enthusiastic and as passionate’ anymore?” He took some time to tell this: “Well, I sense that my enthusiasm and passion are not the same as they used to be once, when I was younger,” he admitted, “But, then, I still work hard and lon…

"EVEN IN THE MIDST OF THE STORM, THE SUN IS STILL SHINING."

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Pic.: Uttam Ghosh

“Even in the midst of the storm the sun is still shining.”
Dayna Lovely
It is not easy for us to admit our mistakes. If we are public figures, it is even more so… very, very tough. That’s why, of all the character strengths, I have, always, held that this strength – the ability to accept one’s mistakes and to be ready to do amends – as the greatest one.
Presently, a dear-old-friend of mine is going through a life-churning process. He is 50. When young, his sole aim had been to reach ‘the top’ in corporate world. So, consumed by this burning desire, he worked round the clock… ignoring what his young wife and little daughter really w

"EVEN IN THE MIDST OF THE STORM, THE SUN IS TILL SHINING."

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Pic.: Uttam Ghosh


“Even in the midst of the storm the sun is still shining.”
Dayna Lovely

It is not easy f

EVERY TIME SOMEONE THINKS WELL OR ILL OF ME

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Pic.: Shankar Ramachandran



I think of so many people every day. Some of them dominate my consciousness, and those thoughts are either pleasant or unpleasant.
Yes, whenever the thoughts of some people come up in my mind, I feel happy for them… I deeply wish them well… I want them to be happy, successful, loved and respected in life… I want their families to be happy and successful… I may not go down on my knees and pray for these people and their families… I just wish – deeply and sincerely - in my heart, that they and their families should be happy and successful.
On the other hand, whenever the thoughts of some other people – very few – come up in my mind, I don’t feel happy for them… I feel the irritation, anger, hurt, and that doesn't allow me to think nicely about them or their families… The more I think about these people, the more unpleasant feelings dominate my consciousness… Again, I may not ask God to punish them; but, I deeply hold a lot of resentment… Yes, I do.
Now, what…
THE WILD, WAYSIDE FLOWERS
There is, always, something extra-ordinary in the wild, wayside flowers...