Monday, May 30, 2016

EACH AND EVERY SMALL TASK WHICH LETS ME OVERCOME MY FEARS









Pic.: George A.  D'Souza




CONFIDENCE LIES IN 
EACH AND EVERY SMALL TASK 
WHICH LETS ME OVERCOME MY FEARS
- Janhavi Gupta (Age 17)

Confidence is a very complex concept to describe. Confidence cannot be bought or borrowed from somewhere… We need to build it up in ourselves. The source of inspiration to boost confidence is different for different people. But, one can develop it with time and, of course, with hope and attitude of never giving up.

Initially, I had fear of travelling. But, in order to overcome my fear, I tried pushing myself for it and, now, I have gained enough confidence to travel across Mumbai alone…

That moment, when I realize, that I have overcome my fear, I feel full of confidence… and, I feel very happy, too. Going for college camps, living away from parents and not being dependent on others make me confident…

When I get appreciated, motivated and inspired by others… it makes me confident…

I am afraid of Maths. So, whenever I get the correct answer, it excites me and it boosts my confidence.

Actually, for me, confidence lies in each and every small task which lets me overcome my fears. If we are not confident enough to do a certain work, then, doing that work does not seem worth it. Without confidence, we cannot achieve success.


WHEN I REALIZE, 
THAT I CAN MAKE FOOD AT HOME,
IT MAKES ME FEEL CONFIDENT.
- Pratham Talreja (Age 9)


Being with family and friends makes me confident.

When I finish my task on time and perfectly, it makes me confident.

When I win in sports, it makes me confident.

Above all, when I realize, that I can make food at home, it makes me feel confident.
Yes, making tasty meal of dal and rice has taken my confidence to a greater level.

And, when my mentor, Gerry sir, appreciated my work in the field of cooking (dal-rice),
it was like the icing on the cake!

Yes, cooking makes me confident.



WHEN I KNOW MY MISTAKES,
IT BUILDS UP MY CONFIDENCE
- Simran Shroff (Age 15)

When my dad encourages me, I feel confident.
Whenever my parents or my sister says, “You can do it,”
it builds up my confidence.
When I know my mistakes, it builds up my confidence.



WHEN I WRITE DOWN MY THOUGHTS,
I FEEL CONFIDENT ABOUT MYSELF
- Palak Jagwani (Age 13)


I think, I feel confident when I learn to sit, stand, walk and talk well.

When I write down my thoughts, I feel confident about myself.

I feel confident when my mom talks with me
and gives me knowledge of new things happening around me.

The day I started going alone, I had gained confidence in myself.

My confidence level grew up
when I started looking after the shop in my mom’s absence.


NOW, YOU ARE CONFIDENT
- Jeevna Kaur Mandan (Age 9)

Once, I went to my badminton class al alone.
My mother left me in the class and said,
“Now, you are confident.”
I could manage to play badminton all alone.

(P.S.: These are the impromptu speeches made by our on-going PD-course students on the topic: ‘WHAT MAKES ME CONFIDENT’. I shall be sharing them here on my blog for some days, and they will be published in a book by the same title on 12th June, 2016, the day of the certification.)

GERALD D’CUNHA 

Sunday, May 29, 2016

CONFIDENCE IS ALL ABOUT THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE NOT THE POSTURES YOU STRIKE









Pic.: Nisha Patel


CONFIDENCE IS ALL ABOUT THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE NOT THE POSTURES YOU STRIKE

- Sandeep Jayaswal
(Articulate professional/Travel and sports enthusiast/Mentor)

Belief in self… the trust in my abilities, that I am capable of doing something, is confidence to me. As a topping, knowledge, being positive, preparedness, favorite dress, power, trust and success adds to my confidence in whatever I do.
I would like to share my experiences at various junctures of my life depicting the reasons for my confidence.

SPEAKING YOUR MIND
When I was young, the most perplexing question was: “Why do I get frightened asking a question to my teacher while a few others don’t?” I got frightened, because, I did not want people looking at me. And I just didn't want to bring too much attention on myself.
Was it lack of confidence?
For years, I observed, that, questions asked by others were not always wise. That was when I realized, that speaking your mind was confidence... 

When you ask a question, either you are wise or wiser knowing the other’s perspective.

BELIEVING TO HANDLE WHAT COMES UP
It was summer vacation and I stayed back in school for football camp as our school team was to represent zone in the Inter-Zonal competition. Presence of some amazing players had made our team strongest in the zone. A week into the camp and our coach called me, one day, to discuss if I could lead the team. Technically, I wasn’t the best player nor the senior-most and, hence, I hesitated.
My coach told me, “I like the confidence and calmness in you when you are on the field. The manner in which you handle the situation, anticipate the move and instruct others are good”.
Maybe, confidence doesn’t, always, come from being the best-skilled, but, also, from believing to handle what comes up. One needs to have the requisite confidence to deliver one’s qualitative performance that will mark the very foundation of success.

FOCUS AND DETERMINATION
I ran my first marathon when I was 9-year old, in school, for 6-km and I completed it with good timing for the age. On the contrary, I could not complete the 7-km dream-run in Mumbai Marathon when I was stronger, had better stamina and knew the technique. I had to walk quite a long distance!
Was my stamina better when I was a kid?
It was confidence in self to make it. Maybe, that focus and determination without any distraction gave me that confidence.

TRUST
Stage phobia has never left me live the way I wanted ever since my childhood. I was made school captain in tenth standard and, hence, required to take morning assembly every day. Nothing could have been brutal than facing about two-thousand students, teachers on the stage and commanding students for assembly activities. “School ATTENTION”, “School AT EASE” are the phrases which haunted me days before I was supposed to take my first assembly. I would have practiced more than one-thousand times on the previous day still could not overcome my nervousness.
It was two minutes with Principal Sir, before the assembly, that gave me confidence. “You have been identified from among the best and we all trust you,” were his words.

NOT AFRAID TO BE WRONG
During campus placement, while at MBA, most of the companies preferred group discussion as tool to shortlist. I failed to make any impact in first nine interviews for my summer placement. In the tenth attempt, I spoke in favour of Bill Clinton about Lewinsky scandal and I was selected.
Probably, for the first time, I was not afraid to be wrong. I learnt very important chapter in my life, that people not always see the ideal facts, but how confident you are presenting it… They want to see the conviction in you.

EXPECTING SUCCESS
One of my friends from Lucknow was asked to shift to Chennai by his employer company to take charge of the south zone call-center with two-hundred employees. He had an option to say ‘No’ for the obvious reasons, such as - new place, different culture, unknown language and, most importantly, new people. Moreover, he was expecting promotion and any adverse performance could jeopardize it.
We know, that pessimism can undermine the performance, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, maybe, the confidence comes from success or by expecting success… 
My friend went to Chennai with complete positive attitude, got promoted and relocated  to Mumbai within a year!
Definitely, it requires a shift in mental attitude to an expectation of success which can bring about more success, reinforcing the confidence.
It’s like we, often, expect failure; so, why not expect success? They're both possible circumstances; and, in most, one is not more likely than the other.

To conclude, I can only say, that confidence is you, your strength and ability. There will, always, be someone who is wiser, prettier, smarter, and richer than you, just like there will, always, be someone who is less sagacious, less attractive, less intelligent, and less affluent than you are… All of this is irrelevant, and what is relevant is: caring about advancing your own goals and dreams.
Beware, confidence is not a guarantee for success; but, being confident does improve likelihood of success. And it’s all about the actions you take not the postures you strike.




MY SENSE OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE –
THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY

- Swami Brahmavidananda Saraswati
(Spiritual teacher. Management Consultant/Trainer)


Here are a few things that make me confident in my life…

My awareness of what I am…
My strengths and weaknesses…
Owning up my weaknesses and working on them as and when necessary.

My sense of self-acceptance – the good, the bad and the ugly.

The freedom that comes from my sense of responsibility

The higher purpose in life that I have committed myself to.

Being a loving and caring person – capable of giving and receiving love and care.

Living a life of wisdom and integrity and helping others discover the same,

Lastly, and the most important, the Vedic wisdom that has blessed me
and teaching the same to those who seek it.




SOMETIMES, OUR INNER VOICE IS ENOUGH
TO MAKE US CONFIDENT


– Priyanka Kaka
(Age 19)

Appreciating, encouraging and praising words make me confident.

When I hear from my friends, “Yes, you can help us in Maths,” –
it makes me confident in doing Maths.
When I solve problems in Math on my own, it makes me confident.

We cannot be appreciated at every moment by others.
Sometimes, our inner voice is enough to make us confident.

When I feel right, satisfied after some work – it makes me confident.


(P.S.:These are the write-ups by successful professionals and impromptu speeches made by our on-going PD-course students on the topic: ‘WHAT MAKES ME CONFIDENT’. I shall be sharing them here on my blog for some days, and they will be published in a book by the same title on 12th June, 2016, the day of the certification.)


GERALD D'CUNHA

Saturday, May 28, 2016

CONFIDENCE IS ACQUIRED BY TAKING RISKS









Pic.: Nisha Patel


YOUR OUTER APPEARANCE GIVES YOU
THE INNER CONFIDENCE

- Dr. Alfa Lokhande
(Business Management teaching professional)


In life, many things make you confident. Your appearance – how you look from outside  - is one of them.

Your outer appearance gives you the inner confidence to face the world outside. It boosts you to deliver an impressive presentation. Selection of precise apparels and accessories motivates you and enhances your self-esteem. You should not get scared or feel shy to show your personality through your accessories. In addition to this, you should present a very positive demeanor.

Let me share an incident…

Being a Management faculty and a research enthusiast, I, once, participated at a research conference to present a research paper in one of the reputed Business Schools. I was dressed in a formal sari and had carried all the necessary gadgets required for the presentation. It was an embarrassing moment when I realized at the venue, that I was the youngest among all the delegates. This made me feel out of league.

I delivered my presentation as it was mandatory in the agenda. To my delight, it was appreciated by all the participants and judges. Thereafter, not much happened. I took my lunch sitting alone at the table provided, while others caught up on latest events.

After eight months from the day of the conference, I visited another B-school, where I happened to meet one of the delegates from the conference. When I greeted her and was about to introduce myself, assuming that she wouldn’t remember me, I was astounded by her prompt recall: “I can’t forget you, as you were the best-dressed person in the room that day!”

I simply blushed!

A lesson well-learnt… Focus on your attire, as you may never know how it will play a significant role to increase your recall value.




CONFIDENCE IS ACQUIRED BY TAKING RISKS

Yashraj Khanna (Age 16)



Confidence is something that cannot be measured. Every human being has a different way of gaining self-confidence. In my case, I gain my confidence…

When I know that I am on the right path and, that I am not doing something wrong or something that might hurt someone’s feelings.

When I practice a thing till the time I am convinced that I can do it all by myself.

When I take risks. Confidence is acquired by taking risks; and, for me, to feel confident is to do something that the world says I can’t and when I prove them wrong… Yes, that’s the time my self-confidence boosts up.

The most importantly, I gain my confidence when I acquire my knowledge from my elders, school teachers, classes and friends. There are different types of people in the world and there are different ways one gains his/her self-confidence. Therefore, it is not important for people to have the same way of thinking or the same way of gaining self-confidence.  

So, these are some ways through which I gain my self-confidence… and, I am keen at discovering new ways, too.



BEING POSITIVE MAKES ME CONFIDENT.

- Vyomesh Kukreja (Age 13)


"Always remember… you are braver than you believe,
stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.”
- Christopher Robin


My parents tell me, that I should always value highly what is in your mind…
Not to see what others are doing…  Be positive in whatever I do…

Being positive makes me confident.

Coming to Gerry sir's class and speaking in front of everyone makes me confident.

Helping others makes me confident.

Seeing the good deeds of my father and grandfather makes me confident.

Going to badminton tournaments and someone appreciating me make me confident.

Studying without the help of parents and scoring good marks in my subjects make me confident.

So, these are some of the things that make me a confident person.




WE HAVE TO MOTIVATE OURSELVES
FOR GAINING CONFIDENCE

- Rohan Ruparel (Age 17)


I think, confidence comes naturally when we motivate ourselves to succeed.
 Basically, confidence means the feeling of our self-belief.

Self-confidence should, always, be present in one’s life.
Often, confidence is created in one’s mind by his failure.
It may sound strange… but, it is true…
That, when we fail, we have to motivate ourselves to rise again…
“If someone can do it, why can’t I?”… Yes, we should remind ourselves.

Confidence, also, comes when a person becomes aware
of his strengths in and weaknesses.

Finally, my parents' love and support make me confident, too...


GERALD D'CUNHA



Friday, May 27, 2016

THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING YOU CAN WEAR IS CONFIDENCE











Pic.: Shreeshay Patel




MY CONFIDENCE COMES FROM
MY INTENSE FAITH IN THE UNIVERSE
Austin Coutinho
Former Sr. Manager (CRM), RCF; cricketer;
sports administrator; cricket, football and mental toughness coach;
author, sports writer and caricaturist

My confidence comes from my intense faith in the universe. I try and be good to others, and therefore believe that the universe will not allow bad things to happen to me.

Do I have self-doubts? Almost every moment of my being! That is the reason I put more than a hundred percent effort into everything that I undertake. And when I succeed, that boosts my confidence further.

I have been a scatter-brain: from graduating in science and law to post graduation in journalism, marketing, advertising, and lastly, public relations. It’s been a journey of discovering new things on a daily basis. I played cricket to banish my childhood asthma, but ended up in the Mumbai Ranji squad. I took up football coaching to help my company perform better and was asked to lead the city association, as its President.

The elders in my family, most of whom were in the civil services, laughed at my language. Konkani was my mother-tongue, not English. I responded by writing six books, the last of them being a history of RCF’s 50-year history. My friends and fans say that my caricatures give them a daily reason to smile. Of late, I have begun setting crosswords for Mid-day. I have coached some of the best cricketers and footballers in the city. At 62, I am looking forward to new challenges that are in store for me.

What do I do differently? Nothing! I keep my eyes and ears open and try to learn something new every day. Creative thoughts, I believe, come out of the information stored in one’s sub-conscious.

When you are well-informed, you feel confident!



EMPOWERMENT THROUGH COMMUNICATION
- Hardeep Banga
(College lecturer and mentor)

The mantra followed by me, throughout the years, is: ‘Empowerment through communication’. Yes, I am a complete believer that, people, all around the world, can empower themselves when they learn to communicate well, authentically. I have, always, come across as a confident person to my friends, colleagues, family et al.

To me, confidence is a feeling that comes when I am able to ‘express’ myself clearly, fully and from my heart. When I am able to put across my all ideas, feelings, beliefs, thoughts, emotions, moods, etc. with clarity and with all my heart – I feel confident. I can vouch, that, this comes to me naturally… It is an inborn talent – a God’s gift. This is one of the reasons for being in the profession of teaching, where, day in – day out, one is required to communicate.

After my MBA, having worked in the corporate sector, I could have easily stuck with it; but, there was something missing! Right from the school days, I had fascination for languages I admired teachers who could teach well and put across their ideas nicely i.e. communicate well. I was the reader of the class for all four languages – Hindi, Marathi, English and my mother tongue Punjabi (Gurmukhi). When I came to college, I developed interest for the subject of Accountancy which I studied under Gerry sir, who, later on, introduced me to the world of Public Speaking… 

Wow, I had hit a Jack pot… It sounds Great!

What else did I want - Money?

Yeah, earning was, also, required; otherwise, learning would not have helped. I entered the profession of teaching. Slowly, I had achieved the satiety of communicating well. But, one important principle of communicating well is to communicate ‘right’. That is, having the knowledge of the subject – now that made me more confident as I had complete command over my subject.

However, I apply the same principles in my relationships, where I put across my feelings to the other person clearly… be it anyone – a friend, family member, colleague, student… everyone. I express clearly my disappointments, expectations, likings, preferences, etc. That way, I am a confident person. Over the years, my relationships have improved a lot because of this. I feel I am a better person inside. Again, I feel confident.

Gratitude is another way which makes me confident. Showing gratitude to the taxiwala by saying ‘Thank you’! Every day, after dinner, I thank my mother for giving me food. Saying thanks for small gestures to my colleagues (for which they mock me). But, still I’m confident.

So, you are confident when no one can change YOU.



GETTING UP AND FACING LIFE
AFTER A FALL IS CONFIDENCE
-Vedika Anand (Age 15)
I believe, confidence is a result of the following:
KNOWLEDGE – Having in-depth information, facts and figures regarding any subject/topic gives me the confidence to discuss it with anyone. To gain this knowledge, the first step is Preparation. Reading about the subject is how I prepare. If I’m prepared, then it gives me the confidence to take on any challenge.

SHARING – Discussing stuff with others gives me different views and sharing my knowledge regarding a subject that I know a great deal about, makes me confident.

APPRECIATION – When I present stuff I know, it reflects in my body language and if it is well appreciated by others, it increases my confidence.
Lastly, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Life is a long-term game… There are times when you are strong, and there are times when you will fall. But, getting up and facing life after a fall is confidence.


THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING
YOU CAN WEAR IS CONFIDENCE*
- Vishesh Kukreja (Age  13 )

Until last year, I never used to be confident during my exams.
So, I thought I needed help and I joined a tuition class.
My tuition teacher was very supportive. She taught me everything nicely… 
I started enjoying studies. I was well- prepared before the exams.
I felt confident in my exam and scored well in my exams.

I was, also, shy to go on stage and speak in front of audience,
as I felt my English was not so appropriate.
After joining the P. D. course, I found a great change in myself.
Even though I may not speak perfectly, I have found the confidence
to speak before an audience without hesitation.

*Blake Lively

(P.S.: These are the impromptu speeches made by our on-going PD-course students on the topic: ‘WHAT MAKES ME CONFIDENT’. I shall be sharing them here on my blog for some days, and they will be published in a book by the same title on 12th June, 2016, the day of the certification.)

GERALD D’CUNHA

Thursday, May 26, 2016

THEY CHOOSE TO SAY 'TRY ME' INSTEAD OF 'WHY ME?'











Pic.: Gerorge Antony D'Souza



SEEING THE UNDERDOG PERFORM IN LIFE
IS WHAT MAKES ME CONFIDENT

-Vishal Daryani (Age 17)


Among many other things, seeing the underdog perform in life is what makes me confident.
The one, who, despite all the odds against him/her, pushes back and excels unexpectedly,
is what gives me motivation.

After all, as the saying goes "Hope is the fuel for progress." And those, who possess this fuel, are my inspiration. Like…

A timid creature like a spider, which, despite falling countless times from a tree, doesn't give up and keeps on trying until he succeeds… The disabled, who aren't discouraged by the challenges they have to face every day... Yes, I get my inspiration from them.

In conclusion, what makes me confident are people, who, when their chips are down, instead of saying "Why me?" choose to say "Try me!"




SPEAKING FROM THE DEPTH OF MY HEART
MAKES ME CONFIDENT

                                                     - Shreeshay Patel (Age 16)

Speaking from the depth of my heart makes me confident…  
For, there is no script …Whatever you speak is what you've had in yourself
and wanted to express it in front of the people.

As quoted in the Dawn Club book, ‘Vaachas Chame’:  
“If you have a story and you are dying to tell it…
If you have a cause and you are willing to fight for it, 
Nobody needs to teach you how to speak in public.”

Secondly, what makes me confident is speaking before an unfamiliar audience.
When I speak to them, I reason out in my mind, “Hey these guys do not know
who I am and how I am… I have nothing to worry about when I speak to them.”
So, I get to create an impression on them easily… And, that makes me confident.

Lastly, I would like to quote from ‘Vaachas Chame’, once again:

“The mind has to think,  
The heart has to feel, 
and the mouth has to speak.”

To me, confidence is when my mouth speaks what my heart feels and mind thinks.
       
            


MY NEVER-GIVING -UP NATURE
MAKES ME CONFIDENT

- Saman.V. Dhote (Age 15)
                                                                                                             


   When I am on stage, the support of the audience makes me confident.

   When I play, cheering for me makes me confident.

   Support of my best friends make me confident.

   Motivation from my all family members makes me confident.

   My thoughts and positive thinking makes me confident.

   My personality makes me feel confident.

   My never-giving -up nature makes me confident.

   Motivation from all teachers and coaches makes me confident.

   Last, but not the least, because confidence is endless,
   my happiness makes me confident.


                                                                                                              


COMPLETING MY WORK WITH PERFECTION
MADE ME CONFIDENT

- Sahas  Sharma (Age 16)

When I was young, the appreciation from my mother and teachers on completing my work made me    confident. To see my teachers, parents, brother and my friends having faith in me… yes, it makes me confident.

As I grew up, I started believing in myself and started to give my hundred percent to my work… and completing my work with perfection made me confident.

So, I would like to conclude, that believing that I can achieve my goals makes me confident.




WHEN I AM TRYING TO SOLVE MY RUBIK’S CUBE
AND SOMEONE CHEERS ME FOR THAT,
I FEEL CONFIDENT


- Darpan Valecha (Age 15)

When I have the knowledge about the topics that I am dealing with,
it makes me feel confident.

When I am trying to solve my rubik’s cube and someone cheers me for that,
I feel confident.

When I do not understand about any topic in my studies, I ask my parents to help me…
When I am able to understand their explanation and write well in my exams,
I feel very confident.

When Gerry sir invites me on the stage, and if I am able to express
my views well on the subject given to me, I feel very confident.


(P.S.: These are the impromptu speeches made by our on-going PD-course students on the topic: ‘WHAT MAKES ME CONFIDENT’. I shall be sharing them here on my blog for some days, and they will be published in a book by the same title on 12th June, 2016, the day of the certification.)

GERALD D’CUNHA