Thursday, October 31, 2013

YOU HAVE A UNIQUE PERSONALITY AND AN UNBELIEVABLE POTENTIALITY IN YOU...



















Pic.: Fr. Reginald Pinto




“You have a unique personality

and an unbelievable potentiality in you.

Success lies in exploring this hidden wealth in you…

In unleashing the hidden power of your personality.”




No one can explain the mystery of your uniqueness. Billions of people have come on this earth and gone and they will come and go… But, God will produce each one of us, here, in a special mould. There is no duplication in His factory… He sends each one of us with a unique stamp on us…

He gives you a unique finger-print…

He gives you a unique voice…

He gives you your own unique gifts and talents…

He gives you your own special feelings and sensitivities… Your own very special aspirations and dreams…

Yes, He sends you fully-loaded with wealth and power…

But, dear, it is like you inheriting those proverbial ‘acres of diamond’… Imagine, spending your lifetime without knowing the value of your inheritance… without being aware of the colossal wealth that lay right bellow your feet… and lay there all your life!

Your talents and gifts are pre-loaded in you by the benevolent God… call Him Universe or Existence, whatever you wish… But, it is there right inside you… and, it is there in abundance… Loads and loads of it.

So, dear, become aware of it, now… Become aware of your wealth… Feel the acres of diamonds, right beneath your feat... 


The day you set out to explore this wealth… 
is the day you resolve to succeed in life…
 

Yes, your success in life lies, essentially, in exploring your hidden wealth in you… in realizing your God-given talents and gifts…

Yes, in unleashing the hidden power of your personality.



GERALD D’CUNHA

P.S.:

In the early 80’s, as a stranger and a struggling young-man in this big city of Mumbai (then Bombay), I was filled with self-doubts and fears. My self-confidence level was at its lowest pit, and I was gripped with anxiety about my future. It was during these harrowing times, I had found on the roadside an old copy of Dr. Napoleon Hill’s inspirational classic – ‘Think & Grow Rich’… 

My life was destined to change, immediately!

I have been so influenced by Dr. Napoleon Hill’s ‘Success philosophy’ - particularly his famous line: “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” - that it would be impossible for me to shed off this influence all my life.

So, as a young-teacher in his twenties, when I had scribbled those passages in the little booklet ‘THE DAWN’, they loudly – and proudly - echoed the core tenets of Dr. Hill’s life-lessons. What he had assimilated from the lives of scores of successful people and passed on to us, I was now trying to do, in my own way, to my students…

With my deepest humility and reverence, I dedicate this book ‘THE ECHOES OF THE DAWN’ - to the one who made me ‘Stand up’ in life…Dr. Napoleon Hill.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

YOU ARE SOLELY RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR WORLDLY SUCCESS...



















Pic.: Rajiv Sharma


“You are solely responsible

for your worldly success and happiness.

Have a lofty ambition and a right attitude…

You can achieve anything

That you conceive and believe in your mind.”



The early you accept this truth, the better for you:

Your success in this world is your own business... So is your happiness.

All arguments end with this acceptance… All excuses… All self-pity… All blame-games!

May there be a lofty ambition in your heart… and may there be a right attitude…

Ambition is the wind in your heart… Attitude is the mast of your mind… You need both for the voyage called ‘success in life’…

The more you trust in your abilities, the more you rely on your intuitions, the more you learn to trust in your decisions… the more proactive you become in life…



In responsibility – your ability to respond to 
situations and challenges in your life - 
you will feel the power of your freedom…


With this kind of ambition and attitude, dear, you can achieve, in life, anything…

Yes, anything that our mind is able to conceive and believe… you are able to achieve.



GERALD D’CUNHA


P.S.:

In the early 80’s, as a stranger and a struggling young-man in this big city of Mumbai (then Bombay), I was filled with self-doubts and fears. My self-confidence level was at its lowest pit, and I was gripped with anxiety about my future. It was during these harrowing times, I had found on the roadside an old copy of Dr. Napoleon Hill’s inspirational classic – ‘Think & Grow Rich’… 

My life was destined to change, immediately!

I have been so influenced by Dr. Napoleon Hill’s ‘Success philosophy’ - particularly his famous line: “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” - that it would be impossible for me to shed off this influence all my life.

So, as a young-teacher in his twenties, when I had scribbled those passages in the little booklet ‘THE DAWN’, they loudly – and proudly - echoed the core tenets of Dr. Hill’s life-lessons. What he had assimilated from the lives of scores of successful people and passed on to us, I was now trying to do, in my own way, to my students…

With my deepest humility and reverence, I dedicate this book ‘THE ECHOES OF THE DAWN’ - to the one who made me ‘Stand up’ in life…Dr. Napoleon Hill.

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN THIS WORLD...





















Pic.: Mehul Bhuva




“You are the most important person in this world.

It is for you to make your life the way you choose to.”


First thing first: You are not only an important person in this world… You are, in deed, ‘the most important’ person!

But then, dear, take it in the right sense… feel it,  say it  and act on it in the right sense.

Don’t feel or say it to undermine others… but do it to lift yourself up in life…

In Life, you really, really come first… Your first responsibility is to love, care and nurse yourself enough… build yourself enough… trust yourself enough…

Because, unless you believe, that you come first… unless you feel, that you are important… unless you feel, that you deserve joy, love and prosperity in life… you will not be able to experience them despite having them abundantly in your life.

It is only when you feel joyful, successful and prosperous, that you are capable of sharing it with others…

It is only when you feel you care yourself enough, that you are capable of caring for others…

It is only when you treat yourself with respect and dignity you deserve, that you are capable of treating others accordingly…

Even Lord says, “Love thy neighbor as you love thyself!”

The Holy Book, also, says, that God has made you in His own image. If so, what sort of image that must be?

Like you, others, too, are the most important people in the world…

Treat the world the way you treat yourself… with loads of importance!

Hold others in high esteem as you hold yourself in.

And, remember my dear: God has bestowed upon you that precious endowment called - ‘the freedom of choice’.

So, the kind of life you are going to lead shall be the kind of life you choose to lead…

Yes dear, nothing more, nothing less than that…

And, yes, yes:  it is ‘for you’ to do that!



GERALD D’CUNHA


P.S.:

In the early 80’s, as a stranger and a struggling young-man in this big city of Mumbai (then Bombay), I was filled with self-doubts and fears. My self-confidence level was at its lowest pit, and I was gripped with anxiety about my future. It was during these harrowing times, I had found on the roadside an old copy of Dr. Napoleon Hill’s inspirational classic – ‘Think & Grow Rich’… 

My life was destined to change, immediately!

I have been so influenced by Dr. Napoleon Hill’s ‘Success philosophy’ - particularly his famous line: “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” - that it would be impossible for me to shed off this influence all my life.

So, as a young-teacher in his twenties, when I had scribbled those passages in the little booklet ‘THE DAWN’, they loudly – and proudly - echoed the core tenets of Dr. Hill’s life-lessons. What he had assimilated from the lives of scores of successful people and passed on to us, I was now trying to do, in my own way, to my students…

With my deepest humility and reverence, I dedicate this book ‘THE ECHOES OF THE DAWN’ - to the one who made me ‘Stand up’ in life…Dr. Napoleon Hill.


Monday, October 28, 2013

THE SEEDS



















Pic.: Neerja Panchal

I haven’t posted anything since I posted, four days ago, that video – ‘The Inspiring story of the birth of THE DAWN CLUB’. As I told you, the story of our institution is very close to my heart… and, yes, very close to all the well-wishers of our Club.

On 3rd Aug., 2008, we had held a function at the amazing TISS auditorium, Mumbai, to bring together as many people as possible who were instrumental in creating THE DAWN CLUB. I wasn’t on FB then, nor did I have contacts of so many of my students who had come around me and inspired me to found our Club in Sep.1989. Still, as we were about to enter the 20th year, we held this function and unveiled two books during the same. ‘Vaachas Chame’ chronicled our classroom action over the years. But, ‘The Echoes of the Dawn’ chronicled the story - how it all had started about two decades ago. In fact, those many years ago - at the sunset, while leaving the sands of Gorai Beach – when I had gifted to my dear students that small booklet - ‘THE DAWN’… I did not have even the faintest idea as to what the little book had in store for me…!

Yes, everything happened from that little book – ‘THE DAWN’.

We published it several times over, later as bookmarks or as ‘The Echoes of the Dawn’. And, on 3rd Aug., 2008, when we brought it out, once again, we told the story behind it…

‘THE SEEDS’, we called it…

Now, as I have told you in the introduction to the video on YouTube, we shall be completing 25 years on 10th Sep., 2014. There is a long-cherished dream of founding ‘THE DAWN CLUB CENTRE OF EXCELLENCE’…

The time has now come to set the process in motion…

In all our modesty, I wish to tell everyone, here, that THE DAWN CLUB has touched lives of thousands of young-ones. It has made a huge difference in their lives… and, yes, these young-ones are spread all over the world, and they hold good positions in life…

I wish to reproduce the introduction to ‘The Echoes…’ – ‘THE SEEDS’ – in today’s Post. It is for all those who were there during our early days to sow seeds… and, it is for all those who were there as the seeds sprouted into a tree… And, it is, yes… it is for all of you to help us take THE DAWN CLUB to a place it really deserves to reach…

So, with my deepest gratitude, humility and with a mighty heart filled with hope, belief and resolve, I wish to share with you, here, that honest confession… 




THE SEEDS

10th December, 1988. I had taken my students - about two hundred of them - to Gorai beach for the annual picnic of our Classes. I had struck an unusually beautiful bond with this batch of students, and we had come very close.


The picnic was a grand affair with great music, dance, games and food. Everything was organized by this bunch of youngsters. Of course, I, too, had put my heart and soul in it to make it memorable. I am an emotional creature, and so, at sun set, when they began to leave the vibrant spot, I gave them this surprise return gift: THE DAWN.

The week before our picnic, I had begun to feel a very compelling urge within me to pen for them some inspiring thoughts. So, I scribbled about twenty passages, and got them printed on a dot-matrix printer, and a small pocket-size book was born.



I baptized it as: THE DAWN.



Never in my wildest imagination, could I foresee the chain of events this little book would soon trigger off. It touched them so much, that they immediately began to galvanize each and every student, once again, to stage a grand event and pour their love and gratitude on me. For a full month, they mobilized their talents and resources, and, on 10th January, 1989 - yes, exactly after a month - they surprised me with a grand felicitation. Honestly, I did not have the faintest idea about all this. If I had, perhaps, this event wouldn't have unfolded.



Perhaps, THE DAWN CLUB, too!



Why do I think so?



Because, when I was ushered into the venue, what I saw on the stage backdrop shocked me: 


"GERRY FANS CLUB"!


I was just an ordinary, local teacher. And, I was only 29. Single. “What are my achievements?... What is my fame?... Have these college kids gone crazy, out of their head?”… I got scared at their 'bizarre plan'. “They are putting me on a pedestal, which I truly do not deserve… I must tell them… They must stop it, right now..." Like these, a hundred frightening thoughts made my mind go bonkers.



But, it was too late. I had to give in. At least for that evening.



I was humbled, and began to feel a sense of responsibility. That night, I couldn't sleep a wink. I was thinking: “What should I do now?... Should I just let this episode pass as 'kiddish' and slowly die its natural death?... Or, should I do something within my powers - to transform this 'fans club' into something meaningful… something that can help these - and other - youngsters to do well in life… to 'grow together, beautifully'?



After a few more sleepless nights, I received the answer. I, once again, huddled some of these youngsters into a couple of cars and went for a 'special' picnic to Mud Island. It was there, on that afternoon, I made them sit down around me and unveiled my vision: of transforming their 'GERRY FANS CLUB' into 'THE DAWN CLUB'… Into something meaningful. 



On 10th September, 1989, we - the 'ignorant' me and hundreds of 'innocent' students --founded our Club as a Public Trust. On that inauguration day, I was so emotional while speaking on the stage, that I don't remember what I said that day - except these words, which I do remember repeating, again and again: 
 

"I promise you, as long as I live, I will not allow this Club to die ...
Yes, it will not die.
It will not die."



Maybe, I meant it so much! And, maybe, because I made that commitment from such depths of my being, I have been able to withstand so many storms that came along. The experience in this 'desert', many times, has been lonely, very lonely. But, the caravan has come this long.



And, every step, every heartbreak or milestone along this journey, has been worth it. The path couldn't have been more beautiful! I couldn't have asked for a better experience of 'growing together, beautifully.'


THE DAWN CLUB has done a lot along this long odyssey. And, I am being modest when I say this. The seeds have sprouted, the tree has grown… and still growing stronger and stronger.


The young guns, too, have grown up and are busy raising their own little-ones. I have been able to keep in touch with many of them, but many of them, I haven't been. But, I believe, that none of us has forgotten those lovely moments, that 'unique' bond.



The next year, we shall be completing twenty years. And, we thought we should 'touch base', come together again, and tell this inspiring story to our little-ones. We have evolved a vision for the next line, and we want to infuse a fresh life into this vision.



And, I found no other way more befitting than telling the story through this 'little bomb' - THE DAWN - that had triggered off the explosion. Yes, it is for them - our little-ones... for them to 'grow together, beautifully'.



It is, also, for all those students of mine: to tell them, “Thank you… I love you.”



THE DAWN CLUB is yours. Please take it ahead, from here. Let the tree grow up into a mighty banyan!

And, let these echoes inspire, guide and heal generations to come.



GERALD D’CUNHA

3rs Aug., 2008.




P.S. Many have told me that the beauty and power of our little-book  'THE DAWN' - rebaptised as 'The Echoes of the Dawn' - are concealed in its brevity. All the passages are short, direct and simple... straight from the heart. They cut across the age-group, and, hence, anyone can grasp their meaning, their essence. Thus, for years, I chose to leave them alone... and speak for themselves.

Well, in my coming Posts, finally, I shall take the risk of expanding on those snippets...

Hope, my adventure will not ruin the beauty and power the little-booklet has been able to carry along... so long!

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

HEY, IF I KNEW I WOULD HURT YOU, I WOULD'T...




















Pic.: Neerja Panchal



A line keeps playing in my heart repeatedly today:

“Hey, if I knew I would hurt you, I wouldn’t.”

And, the more I hear that, the more I get convinced, that when I hurt someone, I am doing it in my ignorance.

Please, please, please believe me: I am not justifying my ‘act’, here!

So, what Jesus said from His cross as he was dying in pain was so true:

“Father, forgive them; for, they do not know what they are doing.”

If Jesus’ tormentors ‘knew’ what they were doing, they would not have done that… would not have humiliated, tortured and hanged Him the way they did.



The greatest pain in life is the pain of not being healed of the deep wounds caused by our ‘perceived’ tormentors… This pain comes from our inability to find enough grace in our hearts to ‘understand’ that our tormentor has inflicted the pain in us in his ignorance. And, because we aren’t able to arrive at this deep understanding, we aren’t able to forgive him… And, till we aren’t able to forgive him, he will continue to rule over our peace… continue to torment us, keep us agonized.

The old saying goes, “The door always swings both ways.

Well, I would like to fit it in this context. Peace in our hearts is possible only when we understand the truth that if others have hurt us, they have done that only in their ignorance… And, if we have hurt others, we have done that only in our ignorance…

It is a tough lesson to follow in life, even though it is so priceless, so beneficial, so empowering and enriching. I won’t be revealing anything ‘new’, if I say, here, that peace in our hearts is impossible till we do not get the deep understanding that, eventually, no one can cause us pain without our permission… that no one can hijack our peace unless we allow them to.

As a Christian, Christ’s words are too familiar to me from my baby days… But, I am too caught-up, like the rest in this world, in the blame-game… 



No wonder, my tormentor doesn’t leave me!
 

So, there come, occasionally, these moments when I hear my heart sing… sing repeatedly in silent joy and peace:

 “Hey, if I knew I would hurt you, I wouldn’t.”



GERALD D’CUNHA

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

"IT IS ALREADY TOMORROW IN AUSTRALIA..."













Pic.: Fr. Reginald Pinto
I know worrying doesn’t help; still, I worry… and, worry a lot.


I hope, I am normal!


Many ask me this question: “You come about, through your writings, as a very positive person. Then, how come you say that you worry a lot?”


I tell them with my smile, this: “I write because, I worry a lot… I know how it feels… I know it is a waste and it doesn’t take me anywhere… and, so, in my writings, I honestly tell others how it feels… and not ‘how to stop worrying and start living’ as Dale Carnegie did.”


Honestly, worrying is an old habit and it is not going!


And, strangely, in my case, this ‘useless habit’… this ‘waste’… has been very useful: It has helped me write many of my Posts, and, people have told me that they have loved them… even, been inspired... It has kept my two feet firmly planted on this Earth… It has taught me value of money, time, relationships… It has taught me to choose my words carefully… Respect others feelings… Not to be too reckless… Not to over indulge in my pleasures…


So, worrying helps… The ‘waste’ is useful… The ‘rocking chair’ called ‘worry’ really rocks!


No matter how much we say, that we should not think too much about our past or the future - and no matter how good that advice is – most of us keep doing this mental rewind-and- forward… Only, some of us admit… and, some of us don’t. 


If I worry about my worrying, I will worry more…

 I will not get sleep. And, you know what happens 

when you worry about your sleeplessness!


So, today, I, once again, found myself rocking on my worry-chair… Yes, as always, it was not taking me anywhere… For a while I went through all that comes with this kind or ‘rocking’… yes, till the Sun emerged right through the dark clouds… My heart was smiling as Charles M. Schulz’s famous words played in my ears:


“Honey, don’t worry about the world coming to an end today;

It is already tomorrow in Australia!”




GERALD D’CUNHA

Monday, October 21, 2013

"DAD, DON'T WE EAT THE ANTELOPE?"





















Pic.: Neerja Panchal

There is a dialogue in the Disney-movie ‘The Lion King’. I go back to it, regularly, just to refresh myself when I get weighed down by some of my daily confusions… particularly my confusions about good or bad, fruitful or wasteful… to strive or to give up and so on.

Mufasa: Everything you see exists together in a delicate balance. As king, you need to understand that balance and respect all the creatures, from the crawling ant to the leaping antelope.

Young Simba: Dad, don't we eat the antelope?

Mufasa: Yes, Simba, but let me explain. When we die, our bodies become the grass, and the antelope eat the grass. And so we are all connected in the great Circle of Life.

I find this conversation between the father and the son – the King and the Prince – very relevant for all of us in all walks of life… Because, Life is, in deed, a great circle… and, all events, all things… and all creatures … are, in deed connected in this great Circle of Life.

What we sow, we reap…

What goes around, comes around…

Joy reminds me of sorrow… and sorrow reminds of joy…

Life reminds of death… and death reminds of Life…

Smile and tears, hope and despair, fear and faith… God and Demons… all come into my life only to make me what I am…  

They come only to remind me of the ‘other side’ of the story…



So, when I feel hopeless, at times, I try to console myself saying, that my hopelessness has come in me just to help me ‘see through’ it… to make me more confident, wiser and stronger…

When I am bogged down by the feelings of being unloved, it only ends up making me feel worthy of love that is being showered upon me… “How can I feel the love and joy, if I feel deep within me unworthy?”… This is the wisdom, eventually, my feeling of insecurity ends up leaving behind in my heart: the wisdom about love and joy.

Yes, there is no point in wasting time on crying, blaming or trying to get even with someone… When such feelings come in me – and they do, they do – ultimately, they come only to teach me the truth: “Honey, pass through the Circle… Understand the balance… Respect all beings… Respect all feelings… There is no waste in life… Everything goes on to make you what you are…  Yes, the King or the Pauper… A happy man or an unhappy one!”



And what choice an unhappy man has 

if he wants to be happy?


Get out of it!



GERALD D’CUNHA

Saturday, October 19, 2013

IF THE HIGHWAY IS BLOCKED, FIND THE BY-LANES...













Pic.: Anima D'Cunha
Every time I reflect on the famous statement (made very popular by John Lennon in his song, ‘Beautiful/Darling Boy’) – ‘Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans,”… Yes, let me tell you, very honestly, that a lot of my stress gets eased out… And, yes, it makes me smile, too.

I wrote about my plan, last night, to attend the b’day party of one of my students. It was his 18th b’day; and, some days ago, when I was in the midst of something, his dad had called me to invite. “Sure, I will be there with my wife to wish the young-man,” I had promised.

So, as I wrote in my yesterday’s Post, I picked that inspiring book by Yuvraj Singh (‘The Test Of My Life’) to gift the b’day boy. At 9 sharp, when we reached the hotel where the party was planned, we read on the board: ‘Mundan party of ……’!


The first thing we did was to check if the hotel we had come to was the right one.

Then, we checked with the reception lady if any b’day party was planned in the same hotel at that time.

“No sir,” she clarified.

The next thing I did was a call to the b’day boy’s father...

 “Sir, the party was held on 16th!”

We both collapsed on the seats next to us!

“How did this happen?” I asked myself, “I heard 18th!”

“It was 18th b’day,” my wife got it right now, “the party was on 16th… You heard it wrong.”

Luckily, we were laughing at our stupidity… “It happens sometimes... It is okay… The world is not a perfect place… We are not perfect beings… No point blaming any one…” Yes, I found consoling myself… “Just go with the flow… Enjoy life as it unfolds before you.”

For quite sometime, we were planning to dine at a particular restaurant; but, due to one reason or other, it could not materialize. I instantly suggested to my wife that we did it last night… She was more than happy.

The next moment, we were there!

Had a good time?

Yes sir… A very, very good time.



The book – the gift – is still with me. I shall be presenting it to my dear student when I will meet him one of these days…

Yuvraj had his own ‘huge plans’… But, when cancer knocked him down, could he think of them? Life took that nasty turn for him… leaving him to fight it out… Luckily, he survived… Luckily, he is able to dream again… and he is able to share his story with us…

That’s how the Life is… That’s how all our ‘big plans’ are… If the highway is blocked, find the service road, the sideways, the by-lanes… any road, any lane which can take you ‘there’…

As much as you love your sexy car, love the breakdowns, too…

Else, be ready for the real breakdown!

John Lennon sings to his little boy:

“Before you cross the street
Take my hand…
Life is what happens to you
While you're busy making other plans…”



GERALD D’CUNHA

Friday, October 18, 2013

CAN A BOOK CHANGE ONE'S LIFE?
















Pic.: Madhusudan D. Jeurkar 


There are, always, some defining moments in our lives. I have mine… One of them is when I first picked from a roadside book-vendor, in Fort area, Napoleon Hill’s famous classic - ‘Think & Grow Rich’. I still remember that afternoon, some thirty-four years ago. I was stranger in this city, and I was without a job. Worst, I was absolutely low in my self-confidence… and, I was filled with self-doubts and fears about my future... constantly consumed by the question – “Is there a place for me in this world?”

Yes, it was during this period – I call it ‘The Great Depression of my life’ – my hands reached an old copy of Hill’s famous book. For me, that was the ‘Manna-from-heaven’. I wanted it so desperately to survive in my ‘desert’… And, yes, I did.


Can a book change one’s life?

If I say ‘Yes’, it is my opinion, my truth. I have given a brand-new copy of ‘Think & Grow Rich’, ever since then, to scores of people, all with the hope that it might impact their lives, too. I have no idea, whether or not it has...

When I go back to those days when I got hold of my copy, I now realize that it was only because my heart was thirsty and hungry, both, for the lessons contained in the book… So, the lessons went straight into my heart… They shook me hard, helped me soar… and filled me with self-confidence, which, till then, I was starving for…  The unseen teacher,  Dr. Napoleon Hill - who was dead and gone years before that – did appear in my life because, I, his student, was all ready now! 


Yes sir, a book can change life… 
 It can revolutionalize life, in deed!


Like a book, there are other moments, too… Perhaps a speech, a happy or sad incident, perhaps a friendship or a relationship, or even a sporting event, film or a television programme… something that has impacted our lives… stayed in our consciousness as a defining moment.


Today, I had been to a bookstore to pick two books to gift two of my students. One of them, a boy, would be celebrating his 18th b’day tonight… The other one, a girl, would be performing her Arangetram on Sunday evening. As soon as I landed at the store, my eyes fell on ‘The Test Of My Life’, by Yuvraj Singh. I wasted no time… picked two of them, and, before getting them beautifully gift-wrapped, I scribbled inside:

“Dearest………

on your special day…

with my warmest wishes, love and blessings…

Sir…”


Will Yuvraj’s gritty survival-story impact the young lives?

I hope, it will.


GERALD D’CUNHA

Thursday, October 17, 2013

WHEN WE ARE VERY FOND OF LIFE... HOPE






















Pic.: Fr. Reginald Pinto



I am very fond of both the US President Mr. Barack Obama and our own P.M., Mr. Manmohan Singh. I have, always, held them to be very sincere, extremely committed and exceptionally knowledgeable leaders. So, when they face huge problems, I feel bad for them.


Our P.M. never craved to become country’s Prime Minister. Yet, he was destined to… and, for such a long tenure. Things in our country have gone bad. Well, the Congress-baiters would immediately conclude, “All because of the Congress misrule… and, our P.M.’s lackluster leadership.”


President Obama’s problems are a hundred-fold bigger - even messier and even scarier - than our P.M.’s. For all these days, when the newspapers and televisions were talking about the US debt-limit, I really did not realize how big it was. I just happened to see that figure, today: US- Dollar 16.7 trillion!


Imagine, the most prosperous and the mightiest nation on Earth – the only Super Power… the nation that gives tillions of dollars in aid to other nations – yes, imagine, this very nation has to worry about its own capacity to meet its bills, it has to worry about the default in payments… It has to shut down government aided services…


Yes, imagine the plight, the tension and the fears of my hero – President Obama!


And here, when every second citizen assumes that when Congress goes – when Mr. Manmohan Singh goes – and, perhaps when Mr. Narendra Modi or Mr. Arvind Kejriwal sit on the P.M.’s seat, all our woes will go… yes, when my fellow-men keep such hopes, I wonder ‘How?’


Well, this is not a Congress or Mr. Manmohan Singh loyalist’s election propaganda. I want the best for my country… and, I have faith in its people and the leaders. We elect the leaders, we give them the power… and, if things go wrong, we all are equally responsible…


But, then, this Post is not about elections, leaders or parties. It is about our problems… their nature… How universal they are… How big and bad they can be… and, how, they can befall even the fine leaders or citizens… and, most importantly, how we all have within us that ‘steely something’ – which we never knew we possessed… yes, the mysterious power which enables us defeat our Goliath-size problems…


I am very fond of both Mr. Obama and Mr. Manmohan Singh…


I am very fond of Life…


I am very fond of hope… The triumph of goodness!


GERALD D’CUNHA

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

WHEN OUR LOVED-ONES REALLY BECOME OUR 'LOVED-ONES'!


















Pic.: Neerja Panchal


Who show us the maximum impatience?


Our loved ones!


Who do we show our maximum impatience?


Our loved ones!


It is really strange… Funny! But, ironically, it is not strange at all…!


We tend to take our loved-ones for granted… their ideas, their suggestions, their advice, their help and support, their sacrifice and love…


Where we should have paid the maximum attention… where we should have been extra-courteous and appreciative… yes, there, we show our maximum impatience, least attention… there, we are least appreciative and even maximum critical…


Most of us spend our entire life-time without realizing this folly of ours… And, some of us do realize this as we age… when we come to accept the reality that our loved ones – spouses, children, parents and even friends – are not our ‘properties’… that, they have been there in our lives to make us fine human-beings – loveable and loved… to enrich our lives with wisdom, compassion and love.


Many a times, when my loved-ones show me impatience, I find it difficult to swallow it… I sense the discomfort, the pain… the feeling of isolation. But, that’s exactly the moment, when I am able to see the other side of the game we play: “Don’t I do the same to my loved-ones?” I am able to ask, “Don’t they sense the discomfort, the pain… and the feeling of isolation, the way I do?”


So, eventually, this churning of our soul helps…


Our pride falls…


Our loved-ones really become our ‘loved-ones’!


Impatience, I believe, comes from our false pride… In our relationships with our loved-ones, the pride is a huge barricade… It is unnecessary, avoidable and, yes, laughable, too… As the wise-counsel goes:


“It is better to lose your pride with someone you love


rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride.”



GERALD D’CUNHA