Gerald D'Cunha

The need to prove oneself right comes from one’s low self-esteem.  I am excluding, here, the politicians, who debate on the lines of their respective party-ideologies and alliances.  I am talking, here, about you and me… who, often, tend to prove how and why we are right … Well, I will still narrow it down to myself: How and why, often, I tend to prove I am right… If my urge is to prove myself right making the other person feel wrong or stupid, it will not leave in my heart a pleasant experience…  Arguments come from such inner need…  So, before I embark upon any such trip, I have a choice to make: Will the experience make me feel good or bad about myself… Any assertive behavior of mine, which comes from my healthy self-esteem, has to make me feel good about myself… after I have behaved in that manner… On the other hand, any submissive or aggressive behavior of mine, which comes from my low self-esteem, has...

The picture's far too big to look at, kid. Your eyes won't open wide enough. And you're constantly surrounded By that swirling stream of what is and what was. Well, we've all made our predictions, But the truth still isn't out. - Bright Eyes (Lyrics) Many think I am a very patient man... calm and composed. Well, I am not. But, yes, I wish I were so…  For, I value the value called ‘Patience’… I am conscious of its fruits. So, I try my level best to make amends… I lose my cool less frequently just by being aware of my impatience. A trick I, often, adopt, to be more patient, is this: I try to see the ‘Big Picture’. The ‘Small Picture’ is, always, influenced by my immediate ego gratification… If someone says something nasty about me - or, even if I just get to hear the rumor about it - yes, that’s enough to make me react angrily. If someone doesn’t behave the way I expect, or if he starkly d...