FORGIVENESS IS THE FINAL FORM OF LOVE
“Blame keeps wounds
open,” says Thomas S. Manson, “Only forgiveness heals.”
I know it is true.
Yet, I find it so difficult to end this blame-game. Frankly, I only pretend,
often, that I don’t blame… But, I alone know what a lie that is!
Now, why is it so
difficult for me to end the blame-game completely? What comes on the way?
My Ego!
Our Egos!
So often, I have
seen, that we come very close to ending our misunderstandings and making peace.
But, just when we are about to embrace, something – some past unresolved
memory, hurt etc – pops up, and we step back, once again!
‘We’ means… two
people from within our families, as close as a husband and a wife, a parent and
a son or daughter, an uncle/aunt and a nephew/niece… two partners in a
business, two neighbours, two community members, two business or political
opponents etc…
Experience shows us, that, even though we all desire to live a peaceful life, we do not know what
prevents us from doing it…
Ego blinds us… It
doesn’t allow us ‘see’ that ‘blockade’!
“Forgiveness
liberates the soul… It removes fear,” said Nelson Mandela, “That’s why it’s
such a powerful weapon.”
Nelson Mandela,
Gandhi, Dalai Lama, end, even Jesus Christ… They all had people in their lives
who they could not make peace with… I mean from both the ends! If so, who are
we to claim, that we are some evolved souls?
Yesterday, my
friend, Ashish, sent to me this video:
I listen to Gaur
Gopal Das regularly and find his message to be very simple and practical. Yes,
I said, ‘Practical’…
Look, what an
honest confession he makes before his foreign audience! It takes huge amount of
courage and fearlessness to do that…
You must have
watched this video from Deepak Ramola, too…
Yes, Sir, ending
the blame-game is not very easy. Ego creeps in even before we blink!
But, then, if we
are conscious – totally aware – when our Egos creep in, I think, it does a lot
good to our well-being… Our entire life is a journey of dealing with our egos…
It’s a journey of learning to love and live in peace…That’s why Reinhold
Niebuhr said, “Forgiveness is the final form of love.”
GERALD D’CUNHA
Pic.: Kamal Kishore Rikhari
Videos: Gaur Gopal
Das/Deepak Ramola (YouTube)
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