SOME CONFLICTS IN LIFE WILL ALWAYS REMAIN UNRESOLVED














We all have some conflicts in our personal lives, which we have never been able to resolve. When I say ‘We’, I really mean we all...

Let’s me brutally honest: Don’t we all have some conflicts with some people in our lives, including very near and dear ones? Often, the conflict which seems extremely easy to resolve turns out to be the most difficult one to unknot. For some of us, it may be with our brothers and sisters, parents, spouses, children, uncles or aunts… while for the rest of us, it may be with our business partners, fellow members of the community, neighbours, political or ideological opponents…

What is strange is this: so often, we come so close to end our conflicts and embrace; and, just when we are about to stretch our hands to embrace, something creeps in… and, there we are… unable to meet our eyes, leave alone our hearts!

I think, no matter how noble and evolved we are in life, we will, always, have some people in our lives who would make us feel we are mortals with our own flaws and limitations… Jesus, despite His life-transforming divine powers and despite being hailed as ‘the Son of God’, couldn’t transform the hearts of those hardcore Pharisees. The conflict remained till He was crucified!

Take Gandhi. He couldn’t end his conflict with hardcores of his own time… neither from the Hindu community, nor from the Muslim. Lincoln and Martin Luther King Jr. had their unresolved conflicts, Mother Teresa had her own. Jiddu Krishnamurti, Osho, Anna Hazare, Dalai Lama… they all had or have unresolved conflicts of their own…

Will our country be able to resolve its conflicts with Pakistan? My innocent, idealistic heart says, ‘Yes’. But, there is another voice in my heart – the so-called ‘practical’ one… It says, ‘No’… Never!

I look at the Berlin Wall that once divided Germans as the West Germans and the East Germans. Then, one fine day, the Wall just crumbled, and people, who hated each other for decades, simply embraced each other and danced with joy! Some say, a similar miracle will soon happen in the case of South and North Korea's. Meanwhile, President Trump is hell-bent in raising a Wall between his country and his neighbour, Mexico… Funny it looks to me: on the one side, Trump wants two Korean estranged-brothers to reconcile; on the other side, he is determined to do exactly the opposite with his own neighbour…

Life is such. We do that in our own lives… you and me, we all. We all show exceptional skill and zeal in resolving conflicts in others’ lives… while, some of our own conflicts, remain unresolved, for ever…

Not true?

Well, if I say ‘True’, we have a fresh conflict to resolve, right here, you see…

Meanwhile, as they say, Life should go on!


GERALD D’CUNHA

Pic.: Jatinder Sondhi/Rashmi Sondhi

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