Gerald D'Cunha

"T o be without some of the things you want," said Bertrand Russel, " is an indispensable part of happiness.” "To be without some of the things you want"? Well, that's not happiness... but, it's a part... It comes with the 'happiness package'. Invariably, all of us are in a constant pursuit of happiness... And, it is not an hyperbole, if I say, that we all hope to find it in things that we want...  So, we think: Happiness comes when a great job comes along... when our dream house and car come  along... when marriage happens, when children are born... when they get high grades in school... when they come home with trophies... when our names, our loved ones' names make happy headlines... Yes, for most of us, happiness comes when the things that we desire come...  That's when the Russell's statement, too, comes in...  Life cannot be separated from struggle... the setbacks, disappointments ...

“Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. -”Tennessee Williams T here is a ‘trap’ in which we all fall into: Doing what we love the most! Now, I may sound wired when I say this. “How can doing what we love the most can entrap us?” I hear this question. Like the majority, I, too, believe in seeking happiness in life by following my heart… by doing what I love the most. And, therefore, I have chosen that path for being happy in life… I have done - and am still doing and shall be alwaysl doing – exactly the same… Do what I love and love what I do! But, along this path, I have realized this truth: Often, along our happiness path, we may be blinded… become mechanical, compulsive and even egoistic. What we love to do should come from a very, very clean space… and not from a need to prove our worth to others, seek others’ approval and validation, the need to be visible, feel praised and compli...