Gerald D'Cunha

Pic.: Pradeep Nanda Y es, others’ words – no matter how bad, harsh, hurting or offending we keep claiming them to be – have no power to affect us unless we give meaning to those words… Only when we interpret what others say to us… by giving a meaning, making a story around them… yes, it is only then, that the words get their power to affect us… They hurt us… They offend us… They frighten us… They make us angry or offensive… They make us sulk or depressed… But, not until we give life to them! This is one of the very, very valuable lessons we all need to learn in order to keep our mental sanity… I have a long way to go as far as this lesson is concerned… But, I am aware of its value, its need… and, I am very, very earnest to learn it… Just this morning, something said by someone to me sent me out of balance… I believed, that those words were unreasonable, wrong, and carried bad intention to provoke me, belittle me and even frighten m...

Pic.: Vinod Krishnan O ne of the hardest lessons – and, in my view, the most priceless one – that we all have to learn early in life is this: How to keep the keys to our inner peace in our own hands! And, come what may, never, ever to hand them to someone else – no matter who he or she that person is… And, no matter what the other person has done to us… whether duped us financially, or ditched us emotionally… whatever, it is… The early we learn to get over the setback, the loss and the related grief, denial, guilt or anger… yes, the early we learn to get hold of ourselves… refuse to be bogged down by the so-called injustice, betrayal or hurt, the  better  for us… We have to remind ourselves, again and again: Nobody can take away our peace without our own consent! A s I write this, the images of a couple of dear-ones come before me… A forty-five-year-old man has been a very hard-working and sincere soul I have known. Recently, one of...