KID ON THE HOT SEAT, WORLD ON THE JUDGEMENT SEAT

 



“Judging others does not define who they are.

It defines who we are.”

Kristen Stewart


Yes, agreed – in the latest KBC episode, this 10-year-old kid, Ishit Bhatt, sounded overconfident... Rude and arrogant – okay, agreed...

But, the kid paid a price for it, right?

83-year-old Legend showed a lot of grace and magnanimity to this kid even though he must have been a lot irritated, even angry. But, little boy Ishit was, more than anything else, only what he was – an over excited kid...




And, alas! I saw the whole world going after this little kid, and even his parents...

The kid sat on the ‘hot seat’... and, the world sat on the ‘judgement seat’...

See the relentless posts and read the deluge of comments – yes, from random people - Toms, Dicks and Harrys... Pathetic, damaging, brute... insensitive...

To me, the kid wasn’t a loser in this episode... the random roadside commentators are.

The kid and his parents will take many years to get over the disappointment, pain or sadness – whatever you call it that unfolded on the KBC sets. But, I am afraid, they will never be able to get over the unfair judgements these random judges have been so insensitively dishing out...




Let’s not try to do it in the name of child or parenting psychology... The best of parenting and schooling and the worst of kids, or its vice versa – yes, very much possible...

Hello, how do we know, that those simple parents of Ishit Bhatt did not teach him humility, good manners etc. etc.?

Karl Jung has this for us, if we are thinking of taking shelter in the so-called-psychology:

 



Let’s leave this 10-year-old and his simple parents alone... Let’s give them time to get over the pain and sadness. I am sure, just the way the Great Amitabh Bachchan did, and just the way you, I and the whole world did – this kid, too, will grow up stronger, wiser and even kinder, learning from this KBC episode...

The kid lost 25,000 rupees... Let’s not lose our minds!

Let me tell you this: If God was to judge me by my own mistakes, committed in my life through my own overconfidence, I would have died a sad death long time ago. But, God didn’t judge me and kept giving me more and more chances – to make amends...

Thus, if God doesn’t condemn us when we slip, and if Amitabh Bachchan didn’t condemn the Kid when he slipped – who are we to do it? Why this global obsession to judge and condemn?

Time for us to get off the judgement seat... and grow up fast...

 

GERALD D’CUNHA

Pic’s: 1. www.indiatoday.in 2.   Internet

Video: SET India

 

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