JUST A HUG AWAY
Ashish, my friend, had posted a comment on my yesterday’s bolg – ‘I SEE NO ENEMY’. He had agreed with my views, and written: “Friendship is just a hug away …”
How true!
At the same time, how difficult!
Our egoes make it so difficult. The hug remains a complicated, a calculated ‘move’ … rather than just a spontaneous response of our hearts, a celebration. It is just like the first rain. It, almost always, pours out unannounced, spontaneously, making all of us so glad, so excited. Our response to it, too, is unannounced and spontaneous ... a simple outpouring of our hearts, a celebration. For that hear-felt moment, we all become little children, innocent. We come out and enjoy, get drenched so completely – never even for a while worrying about the consequences of doing so. We all celebrate the new rain.
Joy is as simple as this. As uncomplicated.
Spontaneity begets spontaneity. Love begets love. Hate begets hate.
Our hearts are heavy with the weight of our egoes. They are hardened. So, how can they hug?
I always think, that an ego trip is a ‘path of no- return’. No one has ever made it on this path. Never, ever. Proving something to someone can certainly give us a ‘high’ – a sadistic satisfaction of defeating someone. But, it is a ‘lost game’ … a lose-lose situation. As long as we are driven by our ego-intoxicated-minds, we are incapable of seeing this truth. We remain hell-bent in ‘winning’ by ‘defeating’ someone. Misunderstanding and enmity breed on this ground.
The only key is the ‘awareness’. The moment we realize the futility, and the danger, of this war path, we begin to lighten up, we begin to let go our rigidity. Ego is always a shadow; it cannot be there on its own. In the light of awareness, the shadow dissolves. We are, now, in a position to see the choice: TO BE RIGHT … OR, TO BE PEACEFUL!
Happiness and friendship are, always, our personal choices. And, they are, always, just a hug away.
I completely agree with Ashish, my friend.
GERALD D’CUNHA
How true!
At the same time, how difficult!
Our egoes make it so difficult. The hug remains a complicated, a calculated ‘move’ … rather than just a spontaneous response of our hearts, a celebration. It is just like the first rain. It, almost always, pours out unannounced, spontaneously, making all of us so glad, so excited. Our response to it, too, is unannounced and spontaneous ... a simple outpouring of our hearts, a celebration. For that hear-felt moment, we all become little children, innocent. We come out and enjoy, get drenched so completely – never even for a while worrying about the consequences of doing so. We all celebrate the new rain.
Joy is as simple as this. As uncomplicated.
Spontaneity begets spontaneity. Love begets love. Hate begets hate.
Our hearts are heavy with the weight of our egoes. They are hardened. So, how can they hug?
I always think, that an ego trip is a ‘path of no- return’. No one has ever made it on this path. Never, ever. Proving something to someone can certainly give us a ‘high’ – a sadistic satisfaction of defeating someone. But, it is a ‘lost game’ … a lose-lose situation. As long as we are driven by our ego-intoxicated-minds, we are incapable of seeing this truth. We remain hell-bent in ‘winning’ by ‘defeating’ someone. Misunderstanding and enmity breed on this ground.
The only key is the ‘awareness’. The moment we realize the futility, and the danger, of this war path, we begin to lighten up, we begin to let go our rigidity. Ego is always a shadow; it cannot be there on its own. In the light of awareness, the shadow dissolves. We are, now, in a position to see the choice: TO BE RIGHT … OR, TO BE PEACEFUL!
Happiness and friendship are, always, our personal choices. And, they are, always, just a hug away.
I completely agree with Ashish, my friend.
GERALD D’CUNHA
Comments
You captured the comments so beautifully! I wrote in uttermost honesty and you elaborated it so nicely! comparing with rain evokes so much of connect with the spontaneous hug! Its rather difficult to find a person egoless..its more of a statement to flaunt. If we see childrens..the first feeling is what? love innocence....but what we dont realise is that we love them also,because they have nothing to flaunt!not even ego!!and we all commonly love them...while growing we all forget and get victimised gradually..alas, thats the truth and iy includes me as well
We both are able to see it: because, for a while, we have stepped outside the 'ring'.
Let's not give up on 'goodness'.
Regards,
GERRY