MAYFLOWER
“But,
I preferred my life to be this way," she said, "to be like a Mayflower… and bloom in my own
time, and in my own way.”
“And, in your own garden,” I added.
She was a mother of two married-daughters… Both the daughters were highly educated, married to wonderful husbands and were, now, settled in America.
The mother told me that she wanted to study more and settle in America… but,
due to her circumstances, she had to come to terms it. She couldn't complete
her graduation and she couldn't seek an employment… nor could she settle aboard.
So, this mother did the next best thing: she created circumstances for
her own two daughters… kept reminding them of the dream she had to come to
terms with and motivated them to pursue it, if they wished. Fortunately, both
did. Both, now, are Doctorates and have amazing families to live with, abroad.
“I had this wonderful opportunity to go abroad and settle with my
daughters,” the mother said to me, “both my daughters have been asking me to.
But, I preferred my life to be this way… to be like a Mayflower… and bloom in
my own time, in my own way.”
“And, in your own garden,” I added.
I really liked the way this sixty-something woman described to me about
the choice she had made… To be like a Mayflower… and bloom in her own time and
in her own way…
The Mayflower is destined to bloom only in May… and, so be it. It is so
beautiful about it… so special! If I try to manipulate this plan of the Nature,
and try to bring it to its glory when and where it is not destined to, I will be
in for a rude disappointment.
So, the early we realize what are we destined to do in life, the better
for us: peaceful, joyful and successful!
Was
this mother a ‘success’ or a ‘failure’? A ‘winner’ or a ‘loser’ in life?
As I was talking to this woman, I really wondered how absurd can be our
concepts of ‘success and failure’… ‘winning and losing’!
No one sees a Mayflower
all through the year… but in May.
It is supposed
to be that way!
No, the Mayflower is not a failure in life… No, it is not a loser!
GERALD D’CUNHA
Pic.: Gloria Pinto
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.. Darshan