WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US

Self-care is the foundation for building a healthy self-esteem. It’s, also, the foundation upon which our happiness in life stands.

During a Workshop, last evening, someone asked me, “How can we be self-confident?”

Knowing well, that I could not give an answer in one sentence, I said, “To me, it starts from self-care.”

How can we ever serve ourselves if we do not care for our own selves? When we care for ourselves, we learn how to nurture our hearts… And, we, also, learn, that showing self-care is not being selfish!

One of the most important ways of showing self-care is by freeing ourselves from the influence of toxic people and habits. When relationships with people turn toxic, we come to know inside our hearts. The constant conflicts, which arise out of trust-deficit, insecurity and self-centeredness drain us of our energy. These people – the energy-drainers – constantly dominate our consciousness, making us feel angry, anxious and diffident. When our own near and dear ones turn toxic, it becomes even more difficult. For, we cannot walk away from these people easily. But, there comes a time when we may have to take a call on this…

Toxic people are dangerous. The toxic relationships, if not ended, ruin our well-being. So, when we realize it, we need to gather our courage to walk away from the toxic influence… What is productive for our well-being and growth, we should learn to embrace… What is destructive, we should learn to cut ourselves from…

Only, self-care – coming from self-awareness and self-responsibility – can do it for us…

This morning, I compiled some quotes about ending our toxic relationships. I wish to share them, here, in my Blog. Hope, you will find them helpful…  

“Toxic people attach themselves

like cinder blocks tied to your ankles,

and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”
― John Mark Green

“Do not hold your breath for anyone,
Do not wish your lungs to be still,
It may delay the cracks from spreading,
But eventually they will.
Sometimes to keep yourself together
You must allow yourself to leave,
Even if breaking your own heart
Is what it takes to let you breathe.”
― Erin Hanson

“You create more space in your life

when you turn your excess baggage to garbage.”
― Chinonye J. Chidolue

“Losing will not always amount to a loss;

Sometimes, you have to lose those toxic relationships

and bad habits to create a space for better things.”
― Gift Gugu Mona

“There are only two kinds of people

who can drain your energy:

those you love, and those you fear.

In both instances, it is you who let them in.

They did not force their way into your aura,

or pry their way into your reality experience.”
― Anthon St. Maarte

“Unhappy people can be very dangerous, don't forget that.” 
― S.E. Lynes

“Toxic people spread their toxin to you

and then you, in turn, become a wasteland like they are.”

– Body Focu

Letting go of toxic people in your life

is a big step in loving yourself.”

– Hussein Nishah

“You don’t ever have to feel guilty about

removing toxic people from your life...

– Daniell Koepke

"Sometimes, you have to accept the truth

and stop wasting time on the wrong people.”

- Unknown

”You have to speak to be heard,

but, sometimes, you have to be silent to be appreciated.”

- Unknown

"Some of the most poisonous people come

disguised as friends and family."

- Unknown

"Like arsenic, toxic people will slowly kill you.”

- Dennisse Lisseth

"Sometimes, your heart needs more time to accept

what your mind already knows."

- Unknown

"We teach people how to treat us."

- Dr. Phil

"Dear Self: Stop re-opening your doors for toxic people.”

- Reyna Biddy

GERALD D’CUNHA

Pic.: Kamal Kishore Rikhari