WHY IS IT HARD TO REJOICE IN OTHERS' SUCCESS?

 




“I rejoice in the success of others,

knowing that there is plenty for all of us.”

Louise Hay

 

One of the hardest things to do in our day-to-day life is to truly feel happy when someone around us succeeds.

When I say this, some react: “Why should it be hard?”

I find it even harder to explain!

The only explanation I have come to offer is this: As human beings, we are not fully liberated from our insecurities… We all have our insecurities in varied proportions… I have more, you have less, or vice versa. But, to claim, ‘I am free from my insecurities’, yes, I think, it’s not an honest claim…

True, when someone we love, value and adore succeeds, we rejoice as if his/her success is our own. It makes us feel good, happy and proud. On the other hand, when someone not close to us – or who we do not like for whatever reason – succeeds, we feel sad, as if that person has emptied the well of success!

So, our rejoicing in other people’s success comes from our belief about  life… If we believe, that there is more than enough for each and every soul on this earth, then, that is the belief in abundance of life… This well cannot be empties… It offers enough to all of us!

Blessed are those who believe in Nature’s bounty… the abundance of life!






Someone has said, that the journey of our growth is from ‘human beings’ to ‘being human’…

Let’s read that again. Yes, because we are ‘human beings’, we are imperfect… Our insecurities in life are a part of this reality. But, every time you and I find it difficult to rejoice when our fellow-humans succeed – when we sulk, feel sad and deprived - yes, that’s when we should realize, that our journey is far from over. That’s also the process of breaking down the wall that separates our fellow-beings from us… When we see ourselves in our fellow-beings, it becomes easy for us to rejoice in their success… to feel happy and fulfilled in their happiness and fulfilment…






Louise Hay makes sense when she says: “I rejoice in the success of others, knowing that there is plenty for all of us.”

 

GERALD D’CUNHA

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Video: Paul Simon and Garfunkel/arqags79

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