THE DOOR THAT OPENS INWARD

 


“Stop pushing so hard on the door looking for happiness…

It opens inward.”

Unknown

 

Not many years ago, the wedding videos used to run into hours. Now, they don’t even run into a few minutes. But, the cost of making these 2-minutes-long wedding- videos is phenomenally higher than making those hours-long wedding-videos of yesteryear… Not that there has been inflation in cost; but, there is an unbelievable deflation  in our attitude towards happiness in life…

So, each wedding video that we come across gives us the same high as watching a well-crafted movie – Hollywood, Bollywood, Kollywood, Tollywood or even Bhojpuri… It’s all the same. Made to create an impact…

But, then, a wedding is a day, an event… Marriage is a long, long journey together. A lifetime! Thus, every time, I watch a surreal wedding-video, that exports us to a fantasy land, I reflect on my own three-decades-long marital journey… I ask: Has it been so perfect and glossy as it is made to look in these videos?



(Note: This wedding video, in my view, is one of the most beautifully-produced videos.)

 

Muhammad Ali had reportedly made this remark, once:

“It isn’t the mountain ahead to climb that wears you out;

it’s the pebble in your shoe.”




Whether it’s three decades ago, now or three decades later, happiness for each one of us – particularly in married life - is found along our way, and not at the end of our journey. Like in Heavyweight Boxing, we all have a goal to win, succeed. But, then, what about those little irritations along our path – yes, those little pebbles in our shoes?

That’s where the attention is immediately needed: Clear the shoe… Clear the small distraction along the path towards the mountain.

Also, as we discover overtime, Happiness cannot be found ‘outside’. The newly-wed should remember this:  Happiness is never glossy… It’s shy and subtle… Quiet like snow. Therefore, the quote shared at the outset is an apt reminder for newly-wed, long-wed and never-wed alike:

“Stop pushing so hard on the door looking for happiness…

It opens inward.”

 

GERALD D’CUNHA

 

Pic's.: pixabay

 

Video: CEO The Wedding Journals of India

 

 

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