SHOULD I WISH YOU OR SHOULD I COMPLAIN TO YOU?
Pic.; Rekha Prakash
Some seven years ago, early one morning, I received a phone call from the mother of one of my students. She had a petty grievance and I gracefully assured her that the needful would be done. I hoped, the matter would end there. But, the lady was going on and on and on …
“Rest assured ma’am,” I conveyed to the lady keeping my cool, “It is a small matter.”
“Small matter?” the lady flared up and took off, all over again!
I realized I had committed a sacrilege by saying “It is a small matter”!
“Ma’am, I am sorry, if I have offended you,” I had still the composure to convey to her, “But, trust me, you don’t have to worry … Today is my 50th birthday!”
That didn’t help either … The lady had more to say …
And, I hung up my phone …
“To hell with you,” I said, now irritated and hurt, knowing it very well, that she neither heard what I just said nor felt what I meant when I had said, “Ma’am, today is my 50th b’day.” Yes, all that she was obsessed with was her own early-morning agenda … which, despite my graceful assurances, she was unwilling to drop.”
So, I had hung up the phone and screamed from this side of the planet – “To hell with you”!
Do we bother to check with the other person before we complain to him nastily – that too early in the morning – if it is his b’day or wedding anniversary (Leave alone if he is in a hospital or graveyard)?
I am just asking, knowing it well, that we don’t …
But, if the other person lets us know that it is his 50th b’day or wedding silver-jubilee, then?
I think, we are heartless morons if we keep playing our nasty broken-records!
So, today, early in the morning, I sent this message to my eleventh-standard student, Isha:
“Good morning Isha.
Please attend the class today at 9 am or 6.30 pm …
You had missed yesterday’s. Sir”
I forwarded this message to Isha’s mother, too, who is my FB friend.
I received an instant reply from Isha’s mother:
“Ok sir. Isha will attend at 6.30 pm. Thanks.”
All this happened before I left my house. When I reached my office at 8 and logged on to my computer, I noted that it was the b’day of Isha’s mom!
“Oh no!” I felt bad for the silly complaint I had made, early in the morning, about her daughter to Isha’s mom … Yes, when she, certainly, did not want to hear it from anyone …
I did not wait to do amends. I wrote:
“Happy b’day ma’am. I feel bad, that I sent, early this morning,
Isha’s message (complaint) instead of wishing you …
Really sorry. Have a great day and a year ahead. Love.”
Isha’s mom was quick:
“HAHA!! Thank you sir for the wishes.”
I was relieved … yes, when I did not hear from other side of the planet – “Go to hell.”