ANGER IS OKAY... REVENGE IS NOT
Pic.: Neerja Panchal
“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison
and expecting the other person to die.”
Anger is okay. If we bottle it up as victims, it kills us. If we hold on to it with hatred, it turns into revenge… And, hatred consumes us before it consumes the one who we hate… Revenge kills us first, then the other fellow!
Yes, anger is poison.. I have in my heart quite a lot of it… as everyone else has. And like most of my fellow-beings, I, too, express it by shouting and screaming sometimes - and, sometimes, too loudly; and, with that, there it goes – out of my window. I can, happily say that the other person is not hurt badly at all… In fact, after I have expressed my anger, strangely, he comes closer to me… Most of the times, it is so.
It’s a nice feeling. Very healing, too!
Having said such nice things about anger, I still advocate this: Our anger should not be allowed to become hatred and revenge. We have to let the other person know that we are angry and why… That’s fair enough, healthy. But, taking our anger too far is too dangerous. It is an act of self-destruction…
One who does it, knows it. Even though he may not admit it!
Our anger should help us become compassionate human beings… humbler and more spiritual. Luckily, for most of us, it does. Our fallibility with regard to anger, invariably, takes us closer to God… Yes, we seek His help, His grace…
Anger has to be expressed in an appropriate way… If we learn to channelize our anger into some creative work, the work will assume a distinct beauty about it. The mighty revolutions in history have come out of someone’s just anger… The mighty business empires, too, have come up through someone’s just anger… The greatest prayers in life, too, have their roots in anger…
Anger is there… It needs to be expressed in a way that would make us fine humans… Great humans.
I, always, say this: “The end of our anger
is the birth of our compassion.”
If we ‘see’ the truth that we have anger in us… it helps us release it, end it. And, when it returns, all that we need to do is: ‘see’ the truth, again!