I DID NOT KNOW I WAS A CHRISTIAN, TILL...
Pic.: Nirmala Sundar
Early
this morning, I called up my younger brother, Vivek, and expressed my concern.
Rather, I cautioned him!
Vivek is a very affectionate, generous and soft-spoken
soul and surrounded by loads of friends, mostly non-Christians. He is married
to Gauri, a Maharashtrian Hindu, and they had both Church and Temple marriage ceremonies.
Ditto was the case of Melvin, my wife’s brother, and his wife Amrita, a
Maharashrtian Hindu. They celebrate at home both Hindu and Christian festivals…
and the beauty is: for them, their parents and children, the religion doesn't matter at all… It has never been an issue for so many years!
Honestly, I find my two sisters-in-law, both Gauri (Vivek’s
wife) and Amrita (Melivn’s wife) to be the most wonderful, the most loving women
in this world. All our relatives love them… and, Vivek and Melvin, both, have
been accepted and loved immensely by all relatives of Gauri and Amrita… Their
respective children are growing up, now. Soon, a time will come for them to
make their own choices… To marry a Hindu, Christian, Muslim, Sikh or whoever it
would be. I think, as parents, Vivek and Gauri, Melvin and Amrita would,
certainly, provide them that freedom – that space. To me, that’s the religion of the
highest order!
When,
at the age of 21, I came to live with my uncle, here in Mumbai, I had chosen to
live with a hardcore Jehovah’s Witnesses. For those who do not know who a Jehovah’s
Witnesses is, let me tell you this: They are a Christian sect, who believe to be
the true Christians… who believe in spreading the Bible message so much, that
you get that terrible pain in your soul… You detest! Yes, my uncle was a thorough
gentleman, an ex-serviceman, an affectionate and caring soul… But, when it came
to faith, he believed his faith in Christ was superior to mine, a Roman
Catholic… He made me feel, that I did not know the Bible at all… and it was
important that I did study and follow it as he did. Yes, initially, he tried to
convince me – call it ‘convert’ if you wish… But, even though my position was
vulnerable – I lived in his house for seven-long years of my struggle in Mumbai
– he did not ‘push’ his faith on me. I respect him for that, even today!
Give me my religious freedom, my space to grow… Amen!
It doesn't mean that I have chosen my own faith – Roman Catholic
– as something superior to all else. Far, far from it. I go for a mass only
when my heart takes me there. I receive Holy Communion only when I feel I am worthy
of it… I have never been for confession for decades… I have forgotten even the
basic, routine prayers of my faith… So, if you judge me by all that, I am not
fit to be a Roman Catholic… But, the fact that I am still allowed to continue
inside is, perhaps, the great beauty of my faith!
But, whether I am allowed to continue as a Catholic or
not, it hardly matters for me. No one can take away from me the inspiration
Jesus Christ has left in my soul. I am His follower and call me a Christian or
a Hindu or Muslim, it makes no difference. I feel the same way when I think of
Krishna, Ram, Paigamber, Buddha, Mahavir or Guru Nanak. Their teachings make me
equally feel that I am a Christian or a Hindu or Muslim or whatever that is…
I have taught thousands of students over all these years.
Not even 0.001% of those students have been Christians. Ditto for my colleagues,
neighbors, and friends… They have been, always, non-Christians. I dare not push
my faith on them, and they dare not push theirs on me! The housing society in
which I live has 140 members, of which hardly five are Christian families. Yes,
for six-long years I, a Christian, have been their Hon. Chairman. When Ganesh
Utsav is celebrated in our complex, it is Tabassum, a young Muslim lady, who
stands there in the middle and compeers the programme for all seven days! She
has been doing it for more than a decade now! Hanifbhai, who lives right below my
flat, doesn't fail to invite several of us – all non-Muslims – on Eid day for a
sumptuous Biryani treat!
And, why am I writing all this, today?
My brother Vivek was very angry with what was being said
about Mother Teresa and the consequent hate messages and heated debate. He had
expressed his dismay in strong words in social media, and, this morning, I was
telling him not to vent out his anger or hurt on any social media. “Not that
you cannot or should not,” I told my younger brother, “but, because, it doesn't serve any purpose. It only adds to more problems.”
Well, my brother respected my view. But, he is his own man,
after all!
“Fools and fanatics are so sure of themselves,” goes the
old saying. No reason or logic works when you debate with them… They are ruled
by mob mentality. It is dangerous!
The words of one of the survivors of Hitler’s Nazi-torture
come to my mind, today:
“I did not know I was a Jew till Hitler made me think so!”
Why
am I made to think, today, that I am a ‘Christian’ or a ‘Roman Catholic’?
GERLALD D’CUNHA
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