Saturday, November 24, 2012

YOUR JANMA KUNDALI...


















I haven’t worked anywhere, under anyone, except, maybe, for a year-and-a-half. That’s right at the start of my career… and, that’s all my ‘employment experience’… All put together!


I always wanted to be on my own… and, I chose that path, ever since.


I am happy, I did it!


So, when a young-one comes to me for some tips on how to prepare a smart CV or how to face a job interview, I immediately connect them to some of my friends who have gone up smartly on the ‘employment route’. And, let me tell you, my friends do a fantastic job of guiding the young-ones. 


All that I can do, to the young-ones, is a bit of ‘pep’… 


They say, it helps!


Now, here is the irony. Though, during these three-decades-plus, I did not have to seek jobs in my life, hundreds of my students have given my reference as their ‘teacher/professor’. And, their prospective employers have called me/ written to me to check on the ‘credentials’ of the candidates – yes, my students, their prospective employees…


“In what capacity do you know him/her?”…


“Since when?… For how long?”…


“What is your assessment of him/her?”…


“Was he/she dependable? Committed? Regular? Punctual?...


“What are, in your view, his/her strengths/weaknesses?”


“Would you have employed him/her?”


Finally, “Do you endorse him?”



Well, the questions may not be in the same words, order or manner… But, the objective had been the same: They wanted some ‘respectable person’ to vouch for the candidate. It was so important before they took some, unknown young-one… with the hope that he/she would add value to the organization… change it, transform it! 


‘The third-party reference’… they call it…


It is so important!


This means, if I endorse a ‘good-for-nothing’ fellow, all knowingly… what am I doing?


It happened, sometime back.



A freshly-graduated young-man, one of my students, called me to inform if it was okay to give my reference to his prospective employer. Now, it was a reputed organization seeking fresh graduates. I knew this young-man as a teacher. Incidentally, he was on my FB friend-list for a while… and, I had got him off my list when I had seen the kind of posts he would regularly – almost like a sick-man – send to all and sundry  from dawn to dusk! My advice to one or two, in the past, only had not gone well with them. So, I chose not to get into any preaching with this boy; instead, I quietly got rid of his ‘crap’ from my Timeline.


That’s some months ago.


So, when he called me for the permission for the reference, my conscience did not agree. I politely, yet firmly, refused… Yes, I did cite my fear as the reason.


“I am told, the prospective employers scrutinize the credentials of the candidates through their FB track-record, too,” I told him, “I am afraid, I do not want to get into any controversy in this matter.”


This happened, just because I had seen and read what this young-man was posting on his FB and detested the kind of ‘mindset’ he was openly and unabashedly displaying to the whole world. Had I not gone through this experience, I would have gladly vouched for him, and it would have, even, smoothly gone off…  


But, now, when I knew that he had made himself so ‘public’, and in such a way, my conscience did not allow me to say ‘yes’ to him.



“Such a small thing!”… Am I hearing that?


I don’t know. I really don’t know!


 


The way the young-ones write, these days, 


on their posts – both boys and girls – 


scares me, really!




I have not worked anywhere, as I have told you. But, I seriously think, the young-ones should be discrete and careful about the things they post… It may stand against them when they seek jobs…


Also, I think, the young men and women should be careful on this if they are seeking their partners in life…

Note this: FB can provide to anyone your entire ‘janma kundali’!











Well, I know, all this - 'stone-age' counseling -  may not go very well with our young-ones… 


I only pray, each one of them settles down well in life… finds a fabulous employer and an equally fabulous life-partner…


Yes, maybe, I am too old-fashioned!


Maybe, I am wrong!




GERALD D’CUNHA

Pics.: Lionel Saldanha

5 comments:

Leena Samant said...

It will act like a hammer on their head. Good work you have done. Leena

Kusum Naik said...

Needed, needed, needed! A big thank u!!!! - Kusum

Anonymous said...

I have been thinking and worrying about it for so long! Thanks Gerry. Anil

MANOJ HEGDE said...

Thanks for the wake-up call. Manoj

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