'THE DOG I FEED THE MOST... WINS"















The only way to improve my relationship with another person is by constantly thinking well about that person. And, its opposite, too, is equally true: the only way to ruin my relationship with him is by constantly thinking ill about him.

How we constantly think about the people in our lives - shapes the kind of relationship we, eventually, end up raising.

The moment I hire an employee, I have a choice to make: to groom him as a very productive asset of my organization or as a counter-productive liability. The same holds true about my children and spouse… The choice has to be made whether I need an asset in my life or a liability… Whether I want healthy relationships with them or unhealthy ones.

Often, we don’t realize how, silently and relentlessly, we work against our own interest… How we keep nursing the thoughts of dislike and ill-will about someone, continuously, and end up seeing, one day, a deadly monster! The truth is: this monster is our own creation… We have created him, over a long period of time, by nursing him to the size he has now grown!

If I am not happy with my students, I know what I am not happy about. I, also, know how much of it is within my control and how much is not. So, I have to make out: Is it going to help if I keep cribbing, criticizing, and punishing my student? Or, is there another way to go about it?





What we focus on in our minds and hearts, 

always, expands… grows!



The thoughts of goodwill and thoughts of ill-will are all that we cultivate in our minds and hearts… So, what kind of harvest we shall reap tomorrow does depend on which kind of thoughts we focus on the most, now…

Certainly, it is not possible for us to cement a fine relationship with any person when our minds and hearts do not bear goodwill about him… For people to come to our homes as our fine friends, we need to think well of them and invite…

Think constantly well…

Invite over and over and over again!



Once, George Bernard Shaw had written about what a Native American elder had said to him:

“Inside of me, there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time.”

The great author had concluded:

“When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, ‘The one I feed the most’.”


Yes, the ‘little baby’ we constantly feed in our minds and hearts, one day, grows!



GERALD D’CUNHA

Pic.: Rajiv Sharma






Comments

Prem Biswas said…
I had heard about Shaw's lines before and today, they came back to me with a new meaning. thanks for inspiring always. Prem
September 4, 2013 at 5:01 PM
P. Pal said…
Very inspiring post. Thanks

--- P. Pal
September 4, 2013 at 6:27 PM
Gerald D'Cunha said…
I had read these lines earlier & also seen a movie of John Abraham wherein these lines are repeated by him quite a few times but this post has the maximum impact on me... very inspiring..

Sir today i know which dog I must feed MOST...

Thank you sir

keep writing & inspiring

Love Soniya
September 5, 2013 at 5:44 PM
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