Tuesday, February 25, 2014

"SOME PEOPLE FEEL THE RAIN; OTHERS JUST GET WET"














 Pic.: Sherry Haridas
 
“Some people feel the rain; others just get wet.”


- Bob Marley


Why don’t we open up easily before others?


Opening up before another person means exposing our vulnerabilities… and, that’s something very, very scary!


But, then, unless we trust another person and open up, expose our vulnerability, we really can not feel the closeness… we really can not build a rock-steady relationship with another human.


Our unpleasant experience comes on the way of our readiness to open up, become vulnerable… The fear of being perceived weak, fear of being attacked, coming out hurt, fear of being misunderstood, controlled, manipulated and even destroyed and so on…


So, even if our hearts prompt us to open up, show our vulnerabilities to the other person, the mind overpowers us… doubt and fear bring about lack of trust, and, consequently, we remain in our shells… Closed…


Imagine, if I give the other person the genuine feeling that I am non-critical, non judgmental and non-threatening towards him/her… I don’t cut him off, don’t show my impatience and bias, don’t ridicule, don’t disrespect… and show loads of acceptance and empathy… Yes, imagine, if I show to the other person this kind of openness…!


When I show trust and open up, the chances are, always, high that the other person trusts me… It reduces the guessing mind-game… It, invariably, dissolves doubt, fear and distrust…


So, as my favorite singer Bob Marley said, “Vulnerability is the only way… “


Yes, the only way to love and feel loved…


The only way to trust and feel trusted…


The only way to grow stronger in our relationships…


Yes, there is no other way… No other way of becoming genuine human beings in this world… Even if we, often, conclude that it is a man-eat-man world…


It is the only way to grow in love in this world!


As I conclude this Post, I would like to find a new meaning in Bob Marley’s famous statement:


“Some people feel the rain; others just get wet.”


How can I ‘feel’ the rain unless my heart opens up?


“One good thing about music,” Marley had also said, “ when it hits you, you feel no pain.”


Yes, let the music of our hearts hit us… It is divine music!


GERALD D’CUNHA

3 comments:

Beena Hebbar said...

Full of meaning Gerry, keep inspiring. Beena Hebbar

Ranjeet Singh said...

When we become vulnerable, we become not weak but strong...
- Ranjeeet Singh

Pravin D'Sa said...

Bob Marley is my fav too........... Pravin D'Sa