"I DON'T SEE THE PERSON; I SEE ONLY THE PROBLEM"









Pic.: Ruma Chatterjee


Some years ago, I had asked a gentleman this question:

“How do you maintain your sanity while your opponent has been harassing you so much?”

The gentleman had given me this answer:

“I don’t see the person; I see only the problem.”

The opponent had mixed the person with the problem, the issue. Whereas, our gentleman had separated the two...

That’s what thorough professionals – efficient lawyers, statesmen, businessmen, educators, debaters, and, even, couples and friends do... They do raise the issue and fight over it... But, they separate the person from the problem, the issue.

“Easier said than done,” I can hear it so loudly.

I agree... and I don’t agree.

There is a very wise statement, which goes this way:

“People behave only according to their respective level of awareness.”

Now, let’s read that again...

The gentleman who told me, “I don’t see the person; I see only the problem”, in my view, is a man of higher awareness, while his opponent is not. When our insecurity and immaturity rule our judgment, what can we expect while dealing with our issues and problems with other persons? We are bound to become personal... mix the person with the problem. Suspicion, distrust, hatred and vengeance, all these come from our low level of awareness – our shallow spiritual consciousness. On the other hand, trust, tolerance, love and forgiveness... yes, all these come from our higher lever of awareness.

Probably, that is why it is, often, said: “We are not human-beings going through a temporary spiritual-experience on this earth; we are spiritual-beings going through a temporary human-experience, here!”

To see the problem and overlook our tormentor, we need that inner light of spiritual awareness...

Does the face of ‘heartless monster’ – don’t worry, we all have our own – come before you, as you read this Post?

If it does, good... Very good!

Go through your ‘human experience’... till you are able to overlook the person and see only the problem...

In your hatred and fear, the monster only grows more and more...  In wisdom, compassion and love, you tame the monster... Yes, you do.

So, be strong... See the problem and not the person, the monster. It is enough to keep you sane – healthy, happy and safe.


GERLAD D’CUNHA

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Punit Sharma said…
Great insight. Thanks..............

Punit Sharma
August 20, 2014 at 3:36 PM
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