YOU ARE MUCH BIGGER THAN THAT

 




“To be wronged is nothing,

unless you continue to remember it.”

Confucius


 

I don’t think, that, there exists a single soul on this planet who hasn’t been hurt by someone, or he/she hasn’t hurt someone. “To err is human.” This statement hasn’t been tossed around as just one more proverb. We are humans; hence, we err… We hurt others, including our own. And, others, including our own, do hurt us.

That fact said, and that truth accepted, now what? Should we hold on to those hurts? Keep remembering, reminding, digging, re-digging those painful memories? Let’s pause for a moment and recall: Has digging, re-digging, remembering, reminding – accusing, blaming, screaming, swearing, threatening, emotional-blackmailing… yes, has any of these, which seems so familiar a thing for each of us, really helped one bit? Or, have all of these only added more mess and turmoil into our already turmoiled lives?






Funny it sounds! We want peace and happiness; we want to walk light and feel confident… Yet, we are unwilling to just get up and say ‘Enough of living like a victim’… ‘Enough of digging up the past’… ‘I want to embrace Life with simple trust’… ‘I want to do it for my own sake, for my own peace, for my own freedom’.

Look, how complicated we make our lives because of our silly ego!

Forgiveness doesn’t need our tormentor’s consent. For, there is no guarantee about such a consent. And, what if we never get to meet our tormentor… ever?

Therefore, forgiveness starts and ends from our own hearts. We choose to do it, because we choose peace over being right. We know it, still we drink this poison called resentment with the illusion that our tormentor dies…

The poison of resentment – holding grudges – kills only the one who drinks it! Amen.

Rita Mae Brown said it with her wit: “One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.”

I seriously think, that it’s better to be cursed with a bad memory, than be blessed with a good memory of bad thing in our lives. Happiness is just impossible when we dwell on bad, bad things…When we ‘see’ this truth, we are ‘freed’ from its bondage…

“In the now, nothing sticks,” says the spiritual teacher, Mooji. He, also, reminds us, “You are so much bigger than that.”

Bigger than what?

The mess, the blame, the pain, the victimhood, the ego-wars… trying to be even, trying to fix the other person… trying to change him/her… thirsting for revenge… the punishment…

Yes, you and I – our lives – are much bigger than that…

A bit longer this video may be… But, it’s worth soaking in this amazing message from Mooji… Please listen to it when your heart and mind are quiet…

 





GERALD D’CUNHA


Pic's: Pixabay


Video: Moojiji

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HappyHeart said…
Thank you sir, for this beautiful piece..
February 26, 2023 at 10:09 PM
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