HOEZAAY HAS THE ANSWER
“Sanity
and happiness are an impossible combination.”
Mark
Twain
THE
DAWN CLUB used to conduct a very popular Workshop regularly. It was titled – “Is
it Love or Is it Obsession?’ Basically, it was intended to help youngsters recognize the traces of heathy and unhealthy relationships. We held this
Workshop for several years.
During the break-time, in one
of these Workshops, I was introducing a middle-aged
gentleman to a young man. “Are you married?” asked the middle-aged gentleman,
quite seriously.
“No, Sir, I am happy,” replied
the young man, light-heartedly.
All of us started laughing.
What we had intended to convey through a 3-hour-long intense Workshop on intimate
relationship, was conveyed in a flash, by this happy-go-lucky young man…
The take away was simple: ‘If
you are not happy on this side of the fence, you can’t be happy on the other
side, too!’
Or, was it this: ‘I am already
happy. So, why to lose it?’
I
remember another incident. I had visited the residence of one of my dear
students to invite his family for my wedding. It was thirty years ago. At their
residence, I saw my student with his father. Handing over my wedding card to my
student’s father, I nervously said, “Sir, I am getting ma…ed.”
“What! Getting MAD?” my
student’s dad yelled.
Before I could regain my
consciousness, I heard the consoling words from my student… “Don’t worry Sir;
both are same!”
That day I realized, for the
first time, that unless I learnt to laugh at myself, I would not be able to keep
my sanity in my married life… Yes, getting married and getting mad, both would
be same…
This
morning, I saw a message in my FB inbox. A young woman was, apparently, pleased with my last
Post on marriage and happiness. She was asking me, with all her seriousness:
“Is it truly necessary to have
a companion, and get married in order to stay happy in life?”
“You are asking a wrong
person, ma’am,” I felt like telling this earnest woman. Wish I had the feather-light
heart of the young man in our Workshop and that parent of my student…
In other words, what I truly
wanted to tell this young, earnest soul was this: “Ma'am, if you are happy here,
you can be happy there as well. If you are not comfortable with your own self,
you will never be comfortable with your companion.”
Life-situations can be grim
most of the times. Married life is no exception… Every married soul can vouch
for it.
And, just as
I had introduced, years ago, that serious middle-aged man to that carefree young man, my
own 28-year-old son had introduced Hoezaay and some of his misadventures to me
when the Pandemic broke out, a year ago. For the uninitiated, curious to know who (or what) Hoezaay
is, here are a few small doses…
“Dad (Dude), don’t be too serious in life, okay?”
“Okay son!”
By the way, I completely forgot
about the sincere question:
“Is it truly necessary to have a companion, and get married in order to stay happy in life?”
I am not the right person to answer this question, ma’am… Hoezaay is!
Seriously!
GERALD D’CUNHA
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